Transformative Fitness Coaching and Outdoor Lifestyle with Jim Laird

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light affects your blood sugar.

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It affects.

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Everything, vitamin D levels, inflammation, immune system, sleep, hormones.

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And you think about it we're basically living under an alien sun 97 percent of the day and staring at a screen that that messes up our circadian rhythm.

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Over the course of weeks, months, years, especially kids that don't spend any time outside, what is that, what kind of effect is that going to have on our biology?

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Welcome back to the wayfinder show.

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I'm your host louis hernandez And today I feel really lucky to be here with jim laird Jim is an experienced strength and conditioning coach since 1997 He's dedicated his career to empowering clients from diverse backgrounds to achieve their goals Ranging from everyday individuals to professional athletes in the nfl cfl lpga and major league baseball renowned for his You We're delivering exceptional outcomes efficiently.

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Jim focuses on optimal health alongside strength with his motto, training smarter, not harder.

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His approach has earned praise from experts.

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Over the past two years, Jim has collaborated with Dr.

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Leland Stillman, adding coaching to his medical practice and Bringing a distinctive style that integrates fitness, nature, and outdoor activities for overall well being.

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Jim now lives in Nicaragua, where he embraces a simpler outdoor life and aims to build an outdoor gym there.

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Jim, welcome to The Wayfinder Show.

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It's great to be here.

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Thank you so much for having me.

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Yeah, it's a pleasure.

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So let's start with a little bit.

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About this move to nicaragua I was really curious about that.

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I always love here in pew because Yeah, full disclosure.

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My wife and I are hoping to travel internationally and maybe even settle somewhere.

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Else, within the next three years Once our youngest is out of the home on a left and sure, so tell us about that Yeah it really started with a health challenge.

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I had around 2014, 2015 I got my earliest health challenge was in the late 2000, like 2008, 2009, I ended up getting ultra colitis from just working too much, training too hard, not sleeping enough.

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To mitigate that with lifestyle and basically learning how to not treat my body like a stolen car.

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And then I ended up getting a pedicure.

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The girl I was seeing at the time, she was not very happy with my feet.

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I was spending 10 to 12 hours a day in the gym.

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Sweaty feet, she convinced me to get a pedicure.

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Four or five days after I got the pedicure, I was in the emergency room getting prepared to have my leg amputated.

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Oh, my.

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And luckily, yeah, luckily they were able to get it under control with antibiotics.

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But they told me this is going to come back, and it's going to come back in the form of it feels like you got the flu, but you got no respiratory symptoms, and you're going to run a big fever, and it's going to be, like, you're going to go into sepsis, and it's not going to be fun.

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You need to get to the emergency room as quick as you can.

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So this started coming back repeatedly multiple times a year, and the antibiotics would work, but every time I'd do a round of antibiotics, The antibiotics just didn't work quite as well.

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So I was running out of options.

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It was really frustrating because this was happening every two or three months.

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And then I met a guy named Dr.

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Jack Cruz, who's a fairly controversial figure, a neurosurgeon.

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And I was doing, I was at a seminar called paleo effects and I was speaking and I was listening to him talk and he really upset a lot of people by saying that if you lived in New York you shouldn't eat a banana in December.

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And I was like, I really need to get to know this guy.

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I he was, he rubbed a lot of people the wrong way.

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And I was like, I got to get to know this guy.

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So we started talking and became friends.

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I became part of his community and I booked a consult with him.

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And he was like tell me what you do.

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I'm like I'm a straight coach.

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I've got having this reoccurring infection problem.

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He's what time do you, how long do you work?

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I was like, I work from five in the morning until eight o'clock at night.

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It's like, when's the last time you saw a sunrise?

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I was like, man, I can't tell you probably since I was a kid.

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I grew up on a farm.

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So in the farming community.

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He was like, you do realize the sun runs all your hormones, your digestive system, your immune system changes with the seasons, according to the sun.

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And you're basically a human zoo animal.

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So he was like, hey, you just need to, get outside in the mornings, and you need to spend more time outdoors throughout the day.

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And you need to.

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When the lights are when the lights.

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When the sun goes down, you need to go to bed or, be in candlelight or fire or whatever.

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And so I literally fired all my morning clients.

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I didn't start till 10 o'clock.

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I spent my entire morning outside, changed some things in the gym, kept the doors open, kept the windows open as much as I could.

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I was in Kentucky, so the weather really sucked in the winter.

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And it literally, I, since then I've had.

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Like a couple minor flare ups in the last year or two from just some stress and stuff that I was under, but they were very easily managed.

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And that's well, that's back 2016, 2017.

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So that I've had literally less than 2, and I was having 4 or 5 a year since I adopted a more outdoor lifestyle.

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So he was like, you really need to try and move closer to the equator.

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When coven hit I decided to, after they, they opened everything back up for business.

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I sold my gym and moved to Florida.

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And then eventually I, I partnered with Dr stillman.

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I got in a really bad car accident while I was in Florida.

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The guy ended me, and I literally couldn't walk or talk for a couple months.

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I had to rehab myself back from that.

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Ended up working with Dr stillman installing coaching into his medical practice.

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But while I was in Florida, I was like, I really want to simplify my life.

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I want to really want to set it up so that I can live a, a life of not having to work a ton.

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I love my work.

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I love what I do.

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But because because this is a 3rd world country I can live the life of a millionaire in the United States on, less than 3, 000 a month.

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So it makes it really easy here.

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The rent is affordable.

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The food is ridiculously cheap.

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People are really nice.

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The crime rates are really low, so it just takes a lot of pressure off.

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Whereas if I was going to live the lifestyle I do here in the United States, I'd have to be pulling in an enormous amount of money.

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Whereas here, it's much more reasonable, and the people are so cool, and it's just a more laid back life and a laid back culture.

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Yeah, it's interesting because I'm hearing this over and over now from a lot of folks and I think we have this bias in our heads that you know, you go to these other countries and You already addressed it.

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It's gonna be It's gonna be more dangerous, but you already said it's safe there, right?

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It's gonna the food quality oftentimes is Incredibly good, right?

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It's very affordable Yeah, it's so my breakfast this morning was was six eggs scrambled.

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I had rice and beans For some reason I can handle beans here when my housekeeper's leaving.

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You might hear some monkeys in the background.

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They're howling right now.

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So They're called howler monkeys, but i've got they all run around in my trees But I had six scrambled eggs this morning rice and beans and some fried plantains.

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It's essentially bananas It was a dollar ninety nine and a cup of coffee Yeah, about a dollar ninety nine for that.

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So amazing and you know that they don't have the money Here to put all the chemicals in the food.

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The food's really simple All the cows are grass fed, people raise their own chickens Even the store bought stuff even the junk food like if I go to mcdonald's and managua Which is the capital I went there just for fun.

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I wanted to see it's a lot different.

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It tastes different I don't feel you know, if I drink a coke here in the states you just It just tastes chemically.

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It tastes metallic here.

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It doesn't, you don't have that after effect.

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It's different.

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It's much, much different.

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And the people here are wonderful.

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The crime here is very low.

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The crime here is more what I'd call petty theft.

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If you leave your iPhone on the table and you don't know anybody and you walk away, you come back, your iPhone is going to be gone because it's a third world country.

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The average salary here per month is between 300 and 500 a month.

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So people see an opportunity.

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They're gonna take advantage of it, but you mitigate that by not being stupid and But there's no violent crime here.

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I'd I'd if I was a single female I would feel safer here than pretty much anywhere in the United States Yeah, I think a lot of people still find that shocking and unbelievable till they go and earlier this year my I went with my family to Tokyo and And it just was incredible how anything we ate anywhere we ate Just felt better, just felt better, tasted better the whole night.

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And it was just so affordable.

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It was just incredible.

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And the level of safety, we don't let our girls practically leave the house here in Denver, Colorado.

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And.

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And and there, we actually let them stay out late, we were in the anime district, they're both into anime, Japanese anime, and and they wanted to keep hanging out, my wife and I go to bed early, so we went back home and, they came home on their own in a big foreign city that we don't even know.

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And that's like the first time we'd ever done that.

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And we've never, ever felt the confidence to allow that to happen with almost anywhere in the US, two beautiful teenage girls, but but they did it.

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We let it we felt confident with that and it's incredible.

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People I think really don't I do think more people are waking up to this and they're realizing, our quality of life here maybe isn't as good as we think it is.

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And and it's very eyeopening.

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Yeah.

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Great.

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What how did you pick Nicaragua of all the countries, by the way?

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I was looking at the cost of living.

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I was looking at the ease of I basically just have to leave the country every 90 days.

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I usually fly to Panama or go to Costa Rica.

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Okay.

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That's it.

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So every 90 days I leave, I come back.

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I can do that forever.

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And good Internet here very reasonable prices, easy to get in and out the price of Costa Rica I wanted to build a gym on the beach.

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I had an opportunity to do that, and it didn't work out, and that's okay.

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But the opportunity to acquire land here, or to develop something here, it's actually affordable, or if you go to Costa Rica, if you go to some other places that are a little more developed.

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It was, the price is just.

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Inflated, Costa Rica is almost like being in the U.

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S.

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People, I did a lot of research, the people here are just wonderful.

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Particularly, the key to living somewhere like Nicaragua is not living in a gated community.

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Okay.

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You don't want to live with a bunch of gringos Yeah.

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or expats all in a little fortress.

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You want to go live in a middle class and I live in a rain forest.

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It's in a middle class neighborhood.

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It's about 5 minutes from the major city.

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I know all my neighbors.

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My neighbors know me.

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I shop at their little shops.

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I go into town, everybody knows who I am.

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If you go to these places where it's just you hang out with expats.

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You don't get to know the culture.

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You don't get to know the police.

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You don't get to know The customs like you can get yourself in a lot of trouble because if you get to know the locals and something happens You can automatically the locals will tell you exactly what you need to do to take care of it Who you need to talk to what you need to do Whereas if you go to the expat community, there might be people that are looking to take advantage of you Most of the time when you get taken advantage of in a foreign country, it's usually by other expats Because that's the only way they can really make money here is by, soliciting your soliciting services.

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Of other expats, because you really, you can't 1, the Nicaraguan government doesn't want you to work here.

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They just want you to spend money.

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They don't want you to take a job from Anika.

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And 2, most people here don't have enough money for it to make it to work for a while to do something for them because they just can't afford my, my haircut when I go to the barber to get my beard trim.

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He shaves my head with a straight razor.

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It takes 45 minutes.

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That costs 2 and 50 cents.

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Amazing.

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I tip him well, but that's just to give you an idea.

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Like what we would make in a day, these people, that's two weeks, work for them.

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So it's a totally different world and a totally different perspective.

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And obviously inflation hasn't hit this place quite like inflation in the United States or inflation in the last.

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Unless you go to a place like San Juan de Subaru.

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Or places like Granada where there's a lot of there's a lot of tourists then the prices are going to be a lot higher.

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Okay.

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Tell us let's talk a little bit more about your area of expertise.

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I'm curious about this outdoor gym you want to build.

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Let's, what is that going to look like?

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It's a good question.

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I, I got frustrated when I found out how important circadian biology is and circadian rhythm.

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And is on your health.

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I was like, here I am, I'm working.

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I'm having people that sit in front of a computer screen all day, basically come to my gym and they just spend more time inside.

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So I would educate them about getting outside during the day.

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So I'm like, I really want to set something up where I can work out outside.

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And I'm not, under artificial lights.

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I want it to be more natural, but honestly.

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Most of the gyms that I've found here, they don't have windows.

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They have bars, so most of them are naturally lit anyways.

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So I've just been looking around.

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I probably want to set something up for myself so I can train.

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I might build something here on my property.

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That's become, that's something I was really had my heart set on, like when I first moved down here.

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But now I'm just like, I have some great places to work out.

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I'm just going to put that on the back burner.

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I sell t shirts and stuff.

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All that basically says, don't be a zoo animal, get outside, remind people to get outside.

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And I use that to sponsor some families and pay for a sponsored baseball team here and stuff like that.

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And to put some funds aside, just in case I find a spot where I do want to build a gym.

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But if I do, it's probably going to be more just for me.

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And then if I have clients come down from the US and visit.

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You really, if you build anything here or have a business, it's more of a hobby than it is money making.

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Sure.

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Okay.

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Tell us more about what is your, your style of fitness and training.

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How is it any different from anybody else?

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I think the thing that I do is I want to look for low hanging fruit.

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1.

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Why are we training?

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Are we training to increase performance?

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Are we training to look better and feel better?

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It's a totally different animal, right?

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A lot of people will get performance confused with health.

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High level athletes are not necessarily healthy.

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It's like a drag, dragster.

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They run the quarter mile really fast, but you have to rebuild the engine after every race.

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So somebody who's just looking to look good and feel good, it looks something like lifting 2 or 3 times a week, full body stuff, being active, playing golf, walking every day, getting your diet, getting your sun, getting outside, all those sort of things.

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Improving sleep.

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We're going to do that with high level performers as well, but when you're working with a high level athlete, it's more about managing dysfunction or managing strategies.

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When you're working with a normal person, it's about flirting with performance, not marrying it and having consistent, good workouts and then adding a little bit of stress in from time to time and pro athletes.

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It varies if you're, it's just if you're dealing with a Ferrari and you're running it all out all the time.

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Most of the work you're going to be doing on that Ferrari is going to be maintenance.

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It's going to be, placing the tires, placing the brakes.

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Tuning the engine, it's not really a lot of people think training high level athletes is a lot of fun, but a lot of times it's about managing.

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Keeping them from getting hurt more than it is increasing performance because.

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You got a Ferrari, you don't need to, you don't need to drive it any harder.

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You just need to make sure it's still on the road, yeah.

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So it, it all depends.

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It depends on who I'm working with, what their goals are.

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A lot of times when I'm dealing with people that have autoimmune issues or they've got some sort of health issue, a lot of times their exercise program is a big part of the pro, the reason they're struggling, right?

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They're using exercise to manage stress.

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Or they're training too much.

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A lot of people will use exercise to manage stress and they got to learn how to shut it off and they got to learn how to exercise to the level that they're at.

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A lot of people, they've got a full time job.

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They're training.

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They want to burn body fats and training really hard.

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They're doing a lot of work when they really need to rest a lot more.

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So a lot of it is basically sitting down and talking to the person.

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And seeing where they're at and figuring out what it is they need for example, if I have a woman who's trying to lose body fat, she's been on birth control for 10 years, or 5 years, or, that's something we have to have a conversation like, okay, your diet's pretty decent your training is decent, you're on birth control, it's going to make it very hard for you to lose body fat, or you're on a certain type of antidepressant, or whatever, or if I have an older client who's, say, on a statin drug and they're experiencing back pain or knee pain or something.

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We have to have that discussion, give them some literature, have them do some research.

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And a lot of times it's the drug they're on that's causing the issue they're having.

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So we can look at that or not have a lady, ladies all the time that would come to me.

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They're having problems losing weight.

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They're having problems with good digestion.

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And we figure if we find out they don't have a gallbladder, they've been training really hard, they're working out, the needle isn't moving.

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And then all of a sudden we give them some digestive support.

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We said, we simplify their diet and all of a sudden they start losing weight.

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Big part of the reason they, they weren't losing weight is because they weren't digesting their food well, and they were eat over eating and not absorbing anything.

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So you'll see bloating go away, things like that.

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So I'm looking at what's the issue I have and what's the easiest way?

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What's the lowest hanging fruit?

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I've got somebody who's got low energy, they're not sleeping at all.

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They've got her phone on at 10 o'clock at night.

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We're not going to try and raise their fitness level.

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We're going to be like, hey, you need to sleep.

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You're only sleeping 4 hours a night.

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We need to get you sleeping more instead of let's exercise more, a lot of what I do is looking at what's going on and then trying to pick the.

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The things that are just ridiculously.

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Obvious and then making sure those get taken care of 1st somebody has digestive issues.

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Okay, are you actually sitting down and chewing your food?

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To the point where you can drink it.

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Or are you like on a conference call driving down the road and like shoveling food into your mouth And you wonder why it goes right through you or you know You get gas you get bloating when you are not sitting down relaxing taking a moment.

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Take a few breaths.

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Calm down Actually chewing your food and enjoying it So a lot of it is pointing out obvious things and then making sure a lot of people will like You'll talk to them.

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They're like I know I should manage stress or I know I should get outside or I know I shouldn't have my phone on At night, and I'm like, okay, those things, but are you actually doing them?

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So a lot of it is basically holding people accountable.

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And then helping them build habits that are sustainable.

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So that's, I'm always looking for.

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The most efficient way to do something, as opposed to just throwing more exercise at it.

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Yeah, or, with I would deal with a lot with young soccer players and they practice so much, they get coached so much.

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They do everything's drills, they're playing in the games.

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They don't get a lot of low level activity.

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So a lot of times they've done too much high intensity work and they need more easy cardio They've got a really high resting heart rate.

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So you get these 12 14 year old kids start doing some calisthenics You start doing some really easy conditioning with them You bring their work capacity up and all of a sudden their resting heart rate drops And they have way more energy on the field, whereas a lot of coaches will be like you're out of shape.

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You just need to train harder.

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So we got to look at what are you missing?

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Are you missing capacity?

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How much have you been doing too much intensity?

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A lot that happens a lot with fighters to their training is so intense.

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They don't get enough easy training.

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They don't have the aerobic base and they gas out.

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That happens a lot as well.

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Yeah.

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I learned that through I'm a marathon runner and I had a big quantum leap, in my performance about six, seven years ago, and part of that became, I actually added to my running my, my overall mileage, but I slowed it down tremendously.

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Less workouts, less intensity, but much more mileage.

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And I just started knocking out each marathon, like 15, 20 minutes a run.

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Her marathon off my time and yeah, and from close to five hours to just around three hours by doing that I mean it was it's it's unbelievable.

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Yeah a lot of what I do too is like identifying.

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Okay, you're a marathon runner You're doing it because you want to run marathons if somebody, if a woman comes to me and says, Hey, I want to lose body fat and I want to get leaner and look better and feel better.

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I'm not going to, I'm not going to recommend Marathon for that.

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It's not a great, it's not a great way to improve body composition.

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That's right.

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Yeah.

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We're not the best looking people.

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Particularly for women.

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So a lot of times people will have the wrong activity for the goal that they want in mind.

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I'm all about, if you want to run marathons, great.

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Don't do it for aesthetic goals because It's not going to give you what most people want as far as a lean athletic body, right?

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But if that's what you're into, great, just like powerlifting for men.

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Powerlifting does different things for women than it does for men.

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But, most people, if they want to look good aesthetically, are not going to look their best by powerlifting.

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They're going to look, they're going to look better doing something more athletic.

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So a lot of it is making sure that the people's activity lines up with the goals they actually have.

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That's right.

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Yeah, for sure.

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What I wonder what kind of assessments do you do?

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Do you use any technology or do you blood tests or any of that when somebody comes in?

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What's your intake process like?

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The biggest thing is I take a look at basically what's going on.

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Like I look at, okay.

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Is this person got depends on how serious they are.

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If they're a professional athlete and they have the resources to get blood work done.

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I really like the aura ring.

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I use that a lot because it tells me a ton about what's going on.

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With the nervous system, how much they're breathing and you can wear an airplane mode.

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I don't like things that broadcast you off you all day.

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I'm not a big fan of that.

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So you can wear an airplane mode.

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If you have labs from your doctor, I'd be happy to look at him.

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Obviously, I'm not a doctor, but I want to see it like the inflammatory markers, all that kind of stuff.

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See reactive protein, blood glucose.

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I know enough about that stuff, but overall, I basically just look at their overall health, what they basically their number 1 complaint is.

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And then we go after it.

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And then we go after the 5 fundamentals, which is walk outside 3 times a day, preferably after meals.

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And then getting a protein at every meal, getting the lights off at night, drinking high quality water, preferably spring water, and then having social connection.

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We want to make sure we have those 5 fundamental.

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Habits in place and obviously if someone's just a general population person, I want to see how they move.

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Every workout is an assessment.

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I'm going to adjust the exercise according to how well you're moving.

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And I'm going to pick an exercise that suits where you are.

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But if I have a high level baseball player or something like that, or an MMA fighter, their assessment is going to be much more in depth than somebody who's just, wants to.

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Look good and feel good and as a weekend warrior.

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So it depends on who I'm working with.

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How in depth it is, but most of the time I've been doing this for so long.

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I can just look at the way somebody walks the way somebody moves and go from there.

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But we can keep it as simple as you want.

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Or we can make it as complex as you want.

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But generally speaking, if I watch somebody train, and if I know their resting heart rate, if I know their respiratory rate, if I know their H.

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R.

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V.

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I'm pretty much going to be able to design something for them according to what they need.

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Yeah, talk about hrv a little bit that's one metric I think that has become really popular in the last few years But I don't think I just started hearing about it Maybe two three years ago and before that I never heard of it And now i'm finding that's one of the top metrics for yeah, i've been using it for a long time a guy named joel jameson Who wrote if you want to learn about conditioning, he wrote the best book.

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He has a website called 8 weeks out, and he wrote a conditioning book, which pretty much it's the Bible for just overall.

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Energy systems work, I guess you would say, and Joel's been using H.

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R.

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V.

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He originally started with the mega wave, which came over from Russia.

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And then he started out with this bio force app that would tell you your H.

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R.

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V.

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and basically what it tells you is in my definition anyways.

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Is how well your body's going to restore on distress?

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So it doesn't before you go deeper just to define it hrv is an acronym for heart rate variability ability That is correct.

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So the variability of in between the beats of your heart, right?

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So so basically Technically the higher it is the better that's not always necessarily true But the higher the score the better your hrv the lower the score So basically what I tell people is the higher your score the more adaptable you are the better you're going to handle stress You The lower the score, the less adaptable you are, the less ability you're going to have to handle stress, essentially.

00:26:28.338 --> 00:26:42.308
That doesn't mean that you can't, if you have a really low HRV, you can't set a world record, or I'm sure Michael Jordan's HRV on that day, he had that big game when he was puking and throwing up and had the flu, was horrible, but he was able to push beyond.

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Just because you have a low score doesn't mean you're not going to perform at a high level.

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It's just the chances of you adapting to that performance in a positive way or less, if that makes sense.

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So if your HRV is constantly going down and down, it just means that your body is not coming back and recovering from your training sessions.

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Sometimes we want to do that with a high level athlete.

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We want to crush them.

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If they're in really good shape and we're getting ready for a specific event, we might crush somebody for a week or two and then back off and they would super compensate and come back the other way.

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That, we do that sometimes.

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Most people don't ever train long enough for you to actually do that to them.

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Most people don't get enough consistent training, but it's a nice when, especially if you're working with a team, if you have everybody's numbers, you can see oh, this dude is really doing well and adapting well.

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And then you'll have other guys that are like.

00:27:32.753 --> 00:27:35.413
In the basement, and then you just have to change their training up.

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Maybe you back some of their volume off or, maybe you cut out a workout or 2 and maybe you do some easy cardio and maybe you talk to them about sleep.

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It's good because you can catch a lot of people on a team that aren't responding.

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Because there's going to be guys on the team where you can beat the daylights out of them, and they're going to be fine.

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And then there's going to be people on the team that are going to.

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They're not going to do well, no matter what you do with them.

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And then there's a group in the middle that kind of depends on.

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And you can actually see what's happening to the athlete individually based on those numbers and see what's happening with them over time.

00:28:09.124 --> 00:28:09.443
Yeah.

00:28:10.483 --> 00:28:16.544
How about you talked earlier a little bit about light and, just getting outside more and all of that.

00:28:17.544 --> 00:28:27.453
How maybe if you could talk a little more about the importance, but I'm also wondering these alternative or, the artificial light sources and how they can have an effect on you.

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And I know that there's differences with colors and what have you.

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Yeah.

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The problem is they banned incandescent bulbs and incandescent bulbs were better because they had red.

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So the L.

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E.

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D.

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S.

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Today just have blue and blue is like the cortisol.

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Wake yourself up part of the spectrum, which is fine.

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It's just it doesn't occur by itself in nature.

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So if you're inside under L.

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E.

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D.

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S.

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All day, you're basically your blood sugar is getting spiked in your cortisol is being raised just by being in that light.

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And I've done experiments where I basically, sat in my underwear in inside under fluorescent lights and eating a stack of pancakes after being fasted.

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And taking my blood sugar and done the same experiment a week later out in the sun at noon, and your blood sugar is significantly higher when you eat indoors than it is if you eat outside.

00:29:19.513 --> 00:29:23.634
Cruz gets into this in great depth, but light affects your blood sugar.

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It affects.

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Everything, vitamin D levels, inflammation, immune system, sleep, hormones.

00:29:30.118 --> 00:29:39.729
And you think about it we're basically living under an alien sun 97 percent of the day and staring at a screen that that messes up our circadian rhythm.

00:29:39.739 --> 00:29:47.449
Over the course of weeks, months, years, especially kids that don't spend any time outside, what is that, what kind of effect is that going to have on our biology?

00:29:48.019 --> 00:30:01.229
Yeah, so if you type in circadian rhythm and any disease cancer heart disease You're going to see study after study breast cancer, particularly what is the effect of living in an indoor, indoor zoo animal life?

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If you look what happens to animals when they get taken out of their natural environment and put in a zoo, they suffer from anxiety, depression, obsessive compulsive behavior, all sorts of crazy diseases.

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They lose the ability to reproduce.

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When they're put in an artificial environment.

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So that's essentially what we've done with modern living even here in Nicaragua.

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Most people have a courtyard in the middle of their house where they eat outside.

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They have outdoor kitchens, they don't have air conditioning here.

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You go to Europe.

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That's 1 of the reasons I think you don't have quite the obesity epidemic is most people eat outside.

00:30:33.628 --> 00:30:35.538
I think the food is much better over there as well.

00:30:35.538 --> 00:30:37.489
But most people are walking a lot more.

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I would laugh when I was in Lexington, it would be 70 80 degrees outside and there be a line out the door for people waiting for seats indoors and there'd be like 10 picnic tables outside.

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I'd be the only one sitting out there.

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I think if you make an effort to get outside, you get the lights off at night, particularly get off the phones when the sun goes down, if you have to walk, look at a screen where blue blockers or get you know, some software that turns the screen red.

00:31:01.818 --> 00:31:04.709
I think most people would notice a huge difference rather quickly.

00:31:04.709 --> 00:31:08.038
I noticed a huge deal with my teenage athletes that.

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We're suffering from depression and they couldn't sleep and anxiety when they started wearing blue blockers at night and they started getting outside more.

00:31:16.459 --> 00:31:18.679
They just like life changing for them.

00:31:19.749 --> 00:31:20.078
Wow.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

00:31:21.548 --> 00:31:28.048
The I think nearly anywhere else in the world that I've traveled, you, you see everybody.

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Is outside more, and they walk more, and they eat outdoors more, and even other parts of Asia, like I was in Vietnam one time, and, you, you buy your food on the street, and you sit on a curb, and you might be, in a full suit, in the business district and there's still the way it works.

00:31:43.943 --> 00:31:45.423
And, it's pretty.

00:31:45.784 --> 00:31:50.824
Look at look at pictures from the sixties and seventies in the U S people at the beach and stuff.

00:31:51.064 --> 00:31:51.334
Yeah.

00:31:51.354 --> 00:31:53.463
Do you see any overweight people in those pictures?

00:31:53.463 --> 00:31:55.594
You don't see any overweight people at Woodstock.

00:31:55.963 --> 00:31:56.253
Yeah.

00:31:56.253 --> 00:31:57.923
What's been one of the big variables.

00:31:58.433 --> 00:32:03.044
People back then used to, a lot of them live, rural, they had outdoor jobs.

00:32:03.513 --> 00:32:04.884
They did manual labor.

00:32:05.213 --> 00:32:07.064
They didn't spend all day in front of a screen.

00:32:07.064 --> 00:32:09.423
There's only 2 or 3 channels if you had a TV.

00:32:09.703 --> 00:32:17.324
So that's really, I think the biggest shift there's there wasn't any gyms back in the 60s and 70s, other than some fringe bodybuilding and things like that.

00:32:17.324 --> 00:32:17.604
But.

00:32:18.199 --> 00:32:21.578
Marilyn Monroe was really the first woman to actually start lifting weights.

00:32:22.118 --> 00:32:26.269
It was on feminine to actually, it was not feminine for you to train back then.

00:32:26.298 --> 00:32:27.378
Women didn't lift weights.

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We didn't have an obesity epidemic.

00:32:30.239 --> 00:32:31.788
Now we've got more gyms.

00:32:32.318 --> 00:32:38.788
Than ever before we've got a more overweight people than ever before So I think there's a has a lot to do with the environment that we live in.

00:32:39.788 --> 00:32:40.409
Absolutely.

00:32:40.959 --> 00:32:43.098
Do you talk a little bit about connection?

00:32:43.098 --> 00:32:49.243
Now you said on those five points The last one was connection What do you mean by that?

00:32:49.743 --> 00:33:02.493
They did a, there's a book called The Great Colostral Myth that I would give all my clients, particularly that were older men about statins because, doctors are really happy to prescribe statins and obviously I'm not a medical doctor, so I don't give medical advice.

00:33:03.074 --> 00:33:21.999
But when I have somebody who's over the age of 40, who's never had a heart attack before, There's a man and they've got him on a satin drug or the women to there's so many side effects to those things from, impotence to raising the risk of Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, erectile dysfunction diabetes, increase the risk of all those things.

00:33:22.499 --> 00:33:24.838
And pain is a big side effect of that.

00:33:24.838 --> 00:33:28.209
So that the book, The Great Cholesterol Myth gets goes into all of those things.

00:33:28.209 --> 00:33:30.509
So I've probably given out 100 of those books.

00:33:31.009 --> 00:33:33.659
1 of the things they studied in there was they studied this town.

00:33:33.659 --> 00:33:35.009
I believe is in Pennsylvania.

00:33:35.019 --> 00:33:37.308
It was like a mining town or an industrial town.

00:33:37.888 --> 00:33:46.638
And every most people smoke, they drank, they ate fatty food, they had all the bad habits, but they didn't have the rates of diseases that other places did.

00:33:46.648 --> 00:33:49.479
So they studied this community and they found that.

00:33:50.259 --> 00:34:01.638
Because the social connection was so good, and everybody was such great friends, and nobody was really down and out and isolated, it made up for the fact that they smoked, they drank, they, they ate pretty food.

00:34:02.138 --> 00:34:07.259
Probably manual labor, doing manual labor probably helped a lot with that but social connection's huge.

00:34:07.308 --> 00:34:16.708
That's why I had to be really careful coming down here, making new friends and making sure that I still stay in contact with people because, when you're on an island, you don't speak the language in a country.

00:34:16.708 --> 00:34:18.048
And it's very easy to get.

00:34:18.068 --> 00:34:19.398
Isolated and depressed and.

00:34:19.898 --> 00:34:25.719
People will talk about moving to a place where there's no Wi Fi where there's no cell phone or, the food is perfect.

00:34:25.719 --> 00:34:26.418
Everything's great.

00:34:26.429 --> 00:34:30.849
And if you're lonely and by yourself and isolated you can be miserable.

00:34:30.889 --> 00:34:32.298
You could be just as unhealthy.

00:34:32.409 --> 00:34:33.798
That's something you gotta be really careful of.

00:34:33.798 --> 00:34:40.958
And so people in our modern day world, even though we're connected more than ever, a lot of people, especially men, You know, they get married to have a family.

00:34:40.958 --> 00:34:44.349
They let all their male relationships dissolve and they get disconnected.

00:34:44.869 --> 00:34:49.148
And it's very easy for you to get in a really dark, bad place.

00:34:49.148 --> 00:35:03.579
If you lose those connections, particularly men, I think it's very important for men to have male friends and to have male, men they can go out with and do stuff with and, fix engines and go hunting and all the things that men really need to be doing for their mental well being.

00:35:03.579 --> 00:35:03.628
Yeah.

00:35:04.628 --> 00:35:05.838
No, I think you're right on.

00:35:06.199 --> 00:35:11.599
I think what's becoming a bigger epidemic that we'll be talking a lot more about.

00:35:11.954 --> 00:35:17.523
In the near future, just like we're starting to talk about with some of these other health issues, is connection.

00:35:17.923 --> 00:35:22.123
I think as a society, we've really disconnected from each other, and we're not aware.

00:35:22.393 --> 00:35:28.483
We just had a, an election two days ago, and almost everybody I talk to is shocked.

00:35:28.844 --> 00:35:31.193
On either side, they can't understand it.

00:35:31.563 --> 00:35:41.543
But I think a big reason is because we didn't talk to each other about it, and we weren't aware and I'm thinking you're afraid to write like when I was, so I'm fifth, I turned 50 in April.

00:35:42.193 --> 00:35:47.434
I remember when I was in my early twenties, late, late teenage years, and I talked to mainly adults.

00:35:47.434 --> 00:35:49.454
I was more mature from my age always.

00:35:49.804 --> 00:35:52.804
You can adamantly disagree with people and they'd be totally fine with it.

00:35:52.804 --> 00:35:56.494
Like I had people, I had friends that were on the complete opposite spectrum.

00:35:57.643 --> 00:35:58.804
It wasn't a big deal.

00:35:58.873 --> 00:35:59.853
Like now it's personal.

00:35:59.853 --> 00:36:06.634
And if you don't agree with them, all of a sudden you're a Nazi or you're a, you're a homophobe or whatever you are.

00:36:07.518 --> 00:36:21.298
You can't agree to disagree and people are people have been put into groups by design based on your sexual orientation, your skin color, who you prefer as a sexual partner, your race, your gender.

00:36:21.338 --> 00:36:26.278
These things are all to divide us and people are judging each other.

00:36:26.298 --> 00:36:29.068
The media is doing this and the politicians.

00:36:29.949 --> 00:36:41.539
Instead of judging you on your character and like what you have to offer and you as a person they're judging you based on your sexual preference and your skin color, which is the complete opposite of what Dr.

00:36:41.539 --> 00:36:42.199
King wanted.

00:36:42.728 --> 00:36:47.648
I really couldn't care who you spend your personal time with as long as it's with another consenting adult.

00:36:47.688 --> 00:36:49.909
I don't really care if you think you're a lampshade.

00:36:49.969 --> 00:36:50.878
Congratulations.

00:36:50.878 --> 00:36:51.309
Great.

00:36:51.909 --> 00:36:57.088
But I'm going to judge you based on how you treat me as a person and what you have to offer me as a person.

00:36:57.619 --> 00:37:03.688
Not on who you identify as or, what you think you are, what you're, I it's just really sad.

00:37:04.148 --> 00:37:09.329
And I think a lot of it is too, is that I think the mainstream media just is so out of touch with reality.

00:37:09.889 --> 00:37:13.199
That, most people have just the brainwashing.

00:37:13.199 --> 00:37:14.559
It's just it's ridiculous.

00:37:14.728 --> 00:37:15.108
Sure.

00:37:15.548 --> 00:37:28.128
Going back to the connection piece of this I think what's happening is we're having a we're in a death spiral with it where we are not We're afraid to communicate our opinions, right?

00:37:28.458 --> 00:37:30.108
And because we don't agree.

00:37:30.119 --> 00:37:33.349
It's uncomfortable to go forth and have that confrontation, right?

00:37:33.668 --> 00:37:41.768
And therefore, but then it's getting to the point where we're only connecting with the people who have the same as us, which furthers that, right?

00:37:42.108 --> 00:37:45.568
And, but it also isolates us further because it's smaller groups.

00:37:45.849 --> 00:37:51.898
And then when somebody, Goes outside of that and disagrees with you then you cancel them, right?

00:37:51.958 --> 00:38:03.759
And I give you the example of for example a week or two ago The Washington Post decided not to endorse a candidate and I saw this backlash where they said, okay We're gonna it's owned by Jeff Bezos.

00:38:03.809 --> 00:38:07.588
We're gonna cancel a subscription half his employees quit they walked out.

00:38:07.588 --> 00:38:32.804
Yeah and people are going to cancel amazon and all this now and i'm thinking like that's only more isolating It's more and I don't care what the opinion like you can think that you can don't not like the guy because the Opinion whatever but go find out go seek in true curiosity Why they did this and I think so his employees Who maybe the only connection they had was going into the newsroom and talking about what they're going to have are now not going to have that.

00:38:32.813 --> 00:38:33.793
So they're further isolating.

00:38:33.793 --> 00:38:35.353
It's wild how it's happening.

00:38:35.364 --> 00:38:35.563
Yeah.

00:38:35.574 --> 00:38:36.673
And it just keeps building on it.

00:38:36.884 --> 00:38:37.393
So we're having an epidemic.

00:38:37.443 --> 00:38:39.103
It really starts in school, right?

00:38:39.134 --> 00:38:41.204
Because I remember when I grew up in Canada.

00:38:41.784 --> 00:38:48.554
And I remember when I was in school, in elementary school, even in junior high we call it junior high, not middle school.

00:38:49.034 --> 00:38:51.204
They would make us do both sides of the argument.

00:38:51.594 --> 00:38:53.753
Like you would have to learn to argue both sides.

00:38:53.813 --> 00:38:54.423
That's right.

00:38:55.224 --> 00:38:56.224
That's unheard of now.

00:38:56.224 --> 00:38:58.244
There is only one side to the argument, right?

00:38:58.244 --> 00:38:58.454
Yeah.

00:38:58.463 --> 00:39:06.443
Whatever the academics and whatever the just look at, I got banned from how many Facebook posts of mine get taken down and YouTube videos got taken down.

00:39:06.443 --> 00:39:06.514
Yeah.

00:39:06.934 --> 00:39:09.853
Because during the beer bug, I said, Hey, you really need to get outside.

00:39:09.853 --> 00:39:10.833
You need to get your vitamin D.

00:39:10.833 --> 00:39:11.853
You need to get fresh air.

00:39:12.623 --> 00:39:14.393
You know how many times that was taken down?

00:39:14.443 --> 00:39:17.103
And now that turns out to be, that was the right advice.

00:39:17.284 --> 00:39:17.804
That's right.

00:39:18.273 --> 00:39:21.384
So it's it's ridiculous what's happened.

00:39:21.914 --> 00:39:29.844
In the education system and in general in our society before I left Tampa last year, I remember going, I was in Chipotle or something like that.

00:39:29.844 --> 00:39:35.443
And I saw this group of kids and they were all around the table and they were all texting each other on the phone.

00:39:36.164 --> 00:39:39.054
And so I, and I think too, I think.

00:39:39.889 --> 00:39:54.778
One of the things that's really screwed up our culture is this idea that Everybody's supposed to be happy all the time and you're not supposed to have any adversity or be challenged in any way That happiness is something it's a destination It's not a destination.

00:39:54.778 --> 00:39:57.168
It's something you experience along the way.

00:39:57.298 --> 00:39:57.878
It's a journey.

00:39:57.878 --> 00:40:11.853
Yeah, so yeah, it's a journey and you experience happiness, but you're not going to stay there like You know, you're going to have challenges you're going to have adversity and that's what makes you better it's like In order to have the daylight, you have to experience the darkness, right?

00:40:11.864 --> 00:40:14.204
So you're going to have all these different things.

00:40:14.204 --> 00:40:23.554
And we've been sold this, like this lie that your life is just about, it's about being happy constantly and everything's going to be amazing.

00:40:23.554 --> 00:40:27.083
And, you deserve to have the same opportunities as everyone else.

00:40:27.583 --> 00:40:28.164
You deserve.

00:40:28.204 --> 00:40:33.793
You deserve to have the same opportunity, but not everyone is going to take advantage of that opportunity, right?

00:40:34.054 --> 00:40:37.713
And not everyone is going to be the best marathon runner.

00:40:37.713 --> 00:40:44.403
Not everyone is going to be a great business person, but you have to figure out what you're good at and be the best version of yourself possible.

00:40:44.974 --> 00:40:48.393
Most people have become lazy because everything's been handed to them.

00:40:48.804 --> 00:40:52.623
They don't understand how much work it takes to be exceptional at something.

00:40:53.034 --> 00:40:56.043
Even if you are gifted, you still have to do a lot of work.

00:40:56.514 --> 00:40:59.134
Yeah, to truly be exceptional over a long period of time.

00:40:59.134 --> 00:41:08.793
So I think that's a big part of the issue as well is that kids in school have been basically put in this bubble and been handled with there's no conflict anymore.

00:41:08.793 --> 00:41:17.204
Roughhousing fighting that play has been taken out for Children play is, when I was growing up I'm sure you're falling into this category to yeah, we used to go out.

00:41:17.204 --> 00:41:18.963
We used to go out and play.

00:41:18.994 --> 00:41:20.713
We'd figure out what sport we're going to play.

00:41:20.744 --> 00:41:21.998
We divide the teams up.

00:41:22.228 --> 00:41:23.739
We decide this all on our own.

00:41:24.079 --> 00:41:28.219
If someone was being a tool we would figure out how to deal with it on our own.

00:41:28.338 --> 00:41:29.679
We didn't need anybody to help us.

00:41:29.699 --> 00:41:30.528
It would get handled.

00:41:30.889 --> 00:41:33.248
If the teams were out of balance, we would handle it.

00:41:33.469 --> 00:41:36.259
A friend of mine, Joe Ken, who used to be the strength coach for the Panthers.

00:41:36.789 --> 00:41:42.059
He talked about how important playing on the playground was for learning leadership skills.

00:41:42.509 --> 00:41:53.539
And he said, we pay these guys 150, 000, 200, 000 per presentation to come in and teach leadership when everything you needed to learn about leadership was taught to you on the playground.

00:41:54.094 --> 00:41:59.873
Because, if you did something stupid, you got your teeth knocked in and you learned the hard way.

00:41:59.873 --> 00:42:03.704
Don't be that guy that elbows somebody in the back of the head or you're going to get paid for it.

00:42:03.753 --> 00:42:06.583
And then you figured out how to work this stuff out on your own.

00:42:06.793 --> 00:42:14.173
And kids just don't have the, everything's coached, everything's refereed, everything's supervised.

00:42:14.184 --> 00:42:15.893
Kids don't learn on their own anymore.

00:42:15.893 --> 00:42:16.983
They don't climb trees.

00:42:16.983 --> 00:42:17.873
They don't play.

00:42:18.184 --> 00:42:18.494
Yeah.

00:42:18.583 --> 00:42:20.554
They don't, they're not allowed to make mistakes.

00:42:20.943 --> 00:42:21.853
It's really sad.

00:42:21.853 --> 00:42:26.719
I it's one of the reasons I love being here because It's the complete opposite.

00:42:26.719 --> 00:42:38.909
There's almost no rules and you have to you learn the hard way like my poor dog The other day my older dog he went out and tried to introduce himself to an ox and he got kicked by the ox He didn't get he didn't die.

00:42:39.248 --> 00:42:40.639
He didn't he was fine.

00:42:40.639 --> 00:42:54.849
Thank goodness But, like that's the kind of stuff like, you stick your finger in a light socket, you're going to get shocked and we've made our society so safe, particularly for children that they're almost over coddled and over nurtured.

00:42:54.858 --> 00:43:01.418
Like one kid gets hurt on the playground and they take the playground away because they're like, Oh, somebody fell off and broke their shoulder or whatever.

00:43:01.429 --> 00:43:01.878
Yeah.

00:43:01.918 --> 00:43:07.418
But then there's hundreds of kids that don't get to experience the playground, it's a, it's an interesting time we live in, for sure.

00:43:07.918 --> 00:43:14.909
On that note, Jim, let's go over to our since you're in another part of the world, our world famous Wayfinder 4.

00:43:15.849 --> 00:43:16.208
Okay.

00:43:16.509 --> 00:43:19.889
What, give us a hack that you use.

00:43:19.938 --> 00:43:25.679
This could be, an app, a routine, an activity, whatever, something you use to cheat life with.

00:43:26.889 --> 00:43:28.048
Make time for silence.

00:43:28.239 --> 00:43:29.248
Make time for boredom.

00:43:29.338 --> 00:43:31.009
Be still and know it's a Bible verse.

00:43:31.018 --> 00:43:32.059
I'm not ultraly religious.

00:43:32.059 --> 00:43:35.298
But, if you look at Jesus, he would take time for silence.

00:43:35.358 --> 00:43:43.159
All the prominent people in the Bible would go into the wilderness and pray all the prominent people in most major religions would go into the wilderness and pray.

00:43:43.478 --> 00:43:45.739
So you need to make time for silence.

00:43:45.748 --> 00:43:47.409
You need to make time for stillness.

00:43:47.909 --> 00:43:49.659
I'll use binaural beats sometimes.

00:43:49.659 --> 00:43:56.338
Sometimes I'll use a, like a non sleep deep rest, but I'll just go off into the little forest here, the little jungle, I'll find a place to sit.

00:43:56.378 --> 00:43:58.108
I'll just close my eyes, breathe.

00:43:59.608 --> 00:44:02.199
We've taken silence away with the phones, the apps.

00:44:03.568 --> 00:44:05.378
I think silence is your superpower.

00:44:05.878 --> 00:44:07.449
That's when you get connected with nature.

00:44:07.728 --> 00:44:08.789
That's when, whatever.

00:44:09.778 --> 00:44:11.028
Whatever you believe in speaks to you.

00:44:11.028 --> 00:44:12.889
That's when you learn about yourself.

00:44:12.898 --> 00:44:15.028
That's where a lot of these demons come up that you need to slay.

00:44:15.659 --> 00:44:16.699
It happens in silence.

00:44:17.278 --> 00:44:17.608
Yeah.

00:44:18.628 --> 00:44:18.878
Yeah.

00:44:18.878 --> 00:44:23.489
I, I'd like to believe that I am aware of this, but but the truth is I'm not.

00:44:23.548 --> 00:44:24.119
I have.

00:44:24.313 --> 00:44:27.023
I really, I recognize now I have an addiction to my phone.

00:44:27.034 --> 00:44:28.733
I'm on it all the time, right?

00:44:29.114 --> 00:44:31.673
And about a month or so ago, I stopped.

00:44:32.304 --> 00:44:36.244
I forced myself to put it leave it downstairs when I go to bed.

00:44:36.353 --> 00:44:39.423
I just leave it downstairs, not even in my room, nothing.

00:44:39.833 --> 00:44:56.034
And I'm noticing now it's forcing me at night before I go to bed sometimes I would fall asleep with my phone and you know be looking at it so I get tired And now i'm not and sometimes it's throwing off my sleep patterns for sure But it is giving me i'm noticing a lot of like great ideas coming back to me.

00:44:56.264 --> 00:44:57.623
My creativity is coming back.

00:44:57.804 --> 00:45:02.278
I'm recognizing things I hadn't dealt with You know what I mean?

00:45:02.778 --> 00:45:06.418
It's amazing just how that little bit of time of silence is doing.

00:45:06.418 --> 00:45:14.679
I compare modern life to getting in your car in the driveway, starting it up, leaving it in park and revving the shit out of it all day and never driving anywhere, right?

00:45:14.708 --> 00:45:14.898
Okay.

00:45:15.369 --> 00:45:19.199
And then people wonder I didn't drive my car anywhere, but why am I exhausted?

00:45:19.208 --> 00:45:20.429
Why do I feel terrible?

00:45:20.708 --> 00:45:20.949
Yeah.

00:45:20.958 --> 00:45:23.338
You just rev the shit out of your car in the driveway all day.

00:45:23.338 --> 00:45:26.309
You're still going to have issues with your engine.

00:45:26.398 --> 00:45:27.489
It's going to get beat up.

00:45:27.989 --> 00:45:29.179
Even though you didn't go anywhere.

00:45:30.329 --> 00:45:30.789
Good point.

00:45:31.798 --> 00:45:32.929
So give us a favorite.

00:45:32.978 --> 00:45:42.168
This could be a book, a show, an activity, something that is just there's a book that I've listened to on Audible probably 75 to 100 times.

00:45:42.548 --> 00:45:44.099
I'm a huge history nerd.

00:45:44.139 --> 00:45:45.929
It's a book called Panzer Commander.

00:45:46.583 --> 00:45:51.954
The like the story of Hans von Luke, who was he was he worked directly under Rommel and he was not a Nazi.

00:45:51.954 --> 00:45:53.333
He was a regular German army guy.

00:45:53.793 --> 00:45:57.934
Just the dynamic relationships that he literally was on every front.

00:45:57.943 --> 00:46:04.393
He was in, when they went into Czechoslovakia, when they went into Poland then he went and he was in the spearheaded France.

00:46:04.943 --> 00:46:11.143
And then he shifted him back from France to Russia, and he literally was on the steps of Moscow.

00:46:11.534 --> 00:46:12.833
He could see Moscow.

00:46:12.853 --> 00:46:16.313
And then Rommel called him to go to Africa, which saved his life.

00:46:17.043 --> 00:46:20.103
And he spent time in North Africa, then he ended up at the end of the war.

00:46:20.103 --> 00:46:25.333
He was a d day and then he ended up on the Eastern fronts where he finished and then he spent time in a P.

00:46:25.333 --> 00:46:25.403
O.

00:46:25.403 --> 00:46:25.753
W.

00:46:25.753 --> 00:46:26.173
camp.

00:46:26.543 --> 00:46:30.193
In Russia, it's just a phenomenal book.

00:46:30.233 --> 00:46:32.483
He goes into their interpersonal relationships and.

00:46:32.704 --> 00:46:38.134
In France, and he spoke French as well, so it was, and he spoke some Russian was a really smart guy.

00:46:38.603 --> 00:46:46.063
So just the interpersonal relationships and him developing relationships with the French, the Russians, the better ones.

00:46:47.599 --> 00:46:54.829
In Africa, even his relationships with the British in Africa and Africa the war between the British Rommel and Montgomery was more civil.

00:46:54.838 --> 00:46:56.168
It was more of a gentleman's war.

00:46:56.579 --> 00:46:58.838
They would have pregnant prisoner exchanges or.

00:46:59.159 --> 00:47:04.358
Things like say they were running low on morphine or they're running low on malaria medication.

00:47:04.358 --> 00:47:05.309
They would swap cigarette.

00:47:05.329 --> 00:47:06.929
They would trade different things.

00:47:06.929 --> 00:47:08.978
They would have cease fires on their own.

00:47:08.978 --> 00:47:12.338
That was when it was more of a gentleman's game, I guess you could say.

00:47:12.338 --> 00:47:17.909
So that's 1 of my favorite books, and I can't really stop listening to it.

00:47:17.958 --> 00:47:22.039
And then also I try and read the book of Proverbs at least twice a year.

00:47:22.489 --> 00:47:24.168
There's just so much wisdom in that book.

00:47:24.599 --> 00:47:25.528
I really enjoy that.

00:47:26.528 --> 00:47:30.159
So Jim, give us a piece of advice for your younger self.

00:47:31.159 --> 00:47:34.949
I think be smarter with money would be a big one.

00:47:34.998 --> 00:47:38.028
And then hire people that are smarter than you to help you with the things you suck at.

00:47:38.219 --> 00:47:38.958
That would be mine too.

00:47:40.123 --> 00:47:40.474
Okay.

00:47:41.673 --> 00:47:44.373
Yeah, I could definitely I could definitely relate to those.

00:47:45.134 --> 00:47:49.873
So what about a last one you got a choice between a big opportunity and a limiting belief?

00:47:50.373 --> 00:47:54.114
I have a big opportunity coming up in January for about 10 guys.

00:47:54.454 --> 00:48:02.298
We're going to be taking 10 to 12 guys on in a group coaching program to just really work on just the total transformation or rebuild.

00:48:02.838 --> 00:48:20.518
Or I'm going to spend a ton of time with these guys in group coaching and then also individually through WhatsApp or telegram and rebuild these guys habits and just really take them from get them into a place where they have some habits established that are going to be able to affect them for the rest of their lives.

00:48:20.518 --> 00:48:23.068
So I'm going to be rolling that out in January.

00:48:23.099 --> 00:48:25.179
You can go to the vitality brotherhood.

00:48:26.184 --> 00:48:27.264
Join my free group.

00:48:27.264 --> 00:48:32.764
I have a men's group right now, but we'll be also you can go to the coaching page on that.

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I work with women as well.

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A lot of my most actually majority of my clients over the years have been women.

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But I really I really like working with men over 40.

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Helping them rebuild their vitality and help them continue to chase excellence So in january i'm going to be taking a bunch of guys on So if you're interested in learning about that You can just go to the coaching tab or if you're a woman too and you'd like me to help you out I'm, really good at getting tricking women into lifting weights I was one of the original guys that got women in the weight room back when I started in the early Or the late 90s.

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There were no women in the weight room.

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Now.

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There's nothing but women in the weight room like it's crazy It's a lot different than it used to be but You But if you need some help, you can go to the coaching tab on my website.

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If you're a man or a woman, if you're a man over 40, you can join the Vitality Brotherhood.

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It's completely free.

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I actually have a coaching call this afternoon there.

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We do two calls a week, and then we have all sorts of courses and stuff in there as well.

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And you can book a coaching call with me if I have some space for you, if you need some help, and then also to learn about the program I'm rolling out in January.

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Excellent.

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Okay.

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Yeah, I was going to ask you next about contact information, but I think it's all there, right?

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Just VitalityBrotherhood.

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com?

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Just Vitality Brotherhood.

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And then you can go to, you can go to Jim Laird, G Y M L A I R D on Instagram.

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That's my other main source never name a gym app.

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After yourself, it's really hard to sell it.

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When you do decide to sell it.

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So don't do that.

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That's my other business advice for you.

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Very good.

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Thank you.

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Jim, this has been a real treat.

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Really enjoy learning more about you and having you share your philosophy with us, and I hope that our people check you out.

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I appreciate it.

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Have yourself a wonderful day.

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Thanks for having me on.

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