Clarity, Mindset, and Purpose with Carly Pepin

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Imagine if you woke up and you looked at a list of your life and you're like, I want to do that.

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I want to do that.

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I want to do that.

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Every day.

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Look at your calendar and be like, I can't wait to experience this day.

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That will change your life.

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Welcome to The Wayfinder Show with Luis Hernandez, where guests discuss the why and how of making changes that led them down a more authentic path or allow them to level up in some area of their life.

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Our goal is to dig deep and provide not only knowledge, but actionable advice to help you get from where you are to where you want to be.

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Come join us and find the way to your dream life.

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Welcome back to The Wayfinder Show.

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I'm your host, Louis Hernandez.

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Today, I'm thrilled to welcome Carly Pepin, an international speaker and consultant with a specialized focus on human behavior.

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Carly helps individuals gain clarity, master their mindset, and connect with their authentic purpose.

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She guides people to transform their stories, the stories behind their perceived flaws and challenges, empowering them to live purpose driven lives.

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By helping others delve deeper into the core issues that hinder growth, Carly enables them to design lives of fulfillment and inspiration.

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Carly, welcome to the Wayfinder Show.

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Thank you so much for having me, Luis.

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Yeah, thank you for being here.

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I'm excited So you talk a lot about a topic that we actually kind of started the show with um I think my partner and I were both at the time.

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Uh when we started this we were kind of stuck Trying to figure out what to do with our lives And I think we both evolved quite a bit, but it's a recurring theme before we get into that though?

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I'd like to know a little bit more about you if we could you know, so maybe share a little bit about your story You Yeah.

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Yeah.

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So I have long history in business, entrepreneurship, and it's been a really inspiring journey, but I too had come to this point in my life where I just was dissatisfied, dissatisfied with my day to day experience, dissatisfied with what I was doing.

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And I just remember thinking like, is this it, is this all that there is to life?

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And I was also seeking relationship, but there was a part of me that knew that wasn't going to fix it.

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Like it would be fun, but it's not going to fix like whatever.

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I feel like I'm missing inside.

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So I did move to Australia for a year.

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I thought that leaving Los Angeles would solve my problems.

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I realized when I got there that everything was not on the outside, but it was on the inside.

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And that's when I got my first coach.

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I started to understand human behavior to a greater degree.

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And I started to understand myself and I saw drastic changes and improvements and growth within the first few months of just really, Going through the process of understanding who I was and what I wanted in life.

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And, it's been a journey ever since because it was such a great transformation.

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I told my coach at the time, I was like, I want to know who you're learning from and I want to teach what you teach.

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And that's when it first started.

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So it's been a really inspiring journey.

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And when I came back to Los Angeles, it's been.

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Amazing.

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I love LA.

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It's one of my favorite places in the world and it's probably someplace I'll call home forever.

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So it really wasn't the outside that was out of place.

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It was the inside.

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Got it.

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Are you from LA originally?

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Originally.

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Yeah.

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Born and raised.

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Okay.

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Cool.

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So what, I'm curious as to who is, that master guru that you, learn from on that journey.

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I learned there's no such thing as a master guru, right?

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Whenever we put someone on a pedestal and perceive their guru, we kind of ignore all the other signs.

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We think that's the answer.

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We think that's the main thing.

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They had a couple of great things that they offered me, but there was major, major, major gaps in their teaching and education.

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but it was a beautiful journey.

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Really taught me a lot and it taught me, which I think everyone can know is, you know, we learn things on a regular basis.

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But I say to people all the time is we trust and validate.

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So part of information on a podcast is trusting it.

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But then, you know, we put all these things together so we can validate the information and say, hey, this actually works.

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Yeah, so there's a lot of different individuals now that I love to study with, whether they're alive or dead.

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We're passed away, but there are some amazing things we can learn.

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And something that I did actually learn after that is to just really become an avid reader and make sure that I'm empowering myself educationally to know.

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Basically, that everything that sometimes is being shared is not always true.

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Yeah.

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So that was a fun journey.

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Yeah.

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And that's what I learned.

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Infatuation.

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Right.

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So it sounds to me, I mean, this is something I've always, uh, uh, gone through as well, right?

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When I go into an area I want to learn about, I find like who I think who is the best person in that area.

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And I start studying them like religiously, right?

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And then I go and I get to know them, to the point where you, after a while you start to poke holes at their theories and all that.

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And then you start to find the alternatives, right?

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and that almost like expands your knowledge in that area to an even greater degree.

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It sounds like what you went through.

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For sure.

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And this is the important thing for all of us to know is when we go in, if we put, and this is part of our human behavior, part of personal development, if we go in and we put someone too high on a pedestal, right?

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We think that they are the end all be all.

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We think they're masters and gurus, but what we're not noticing is that they're still humans and that they're still on a journey.

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And then we place unrealistic expectations on them to be a certain way, act a certain way, behave a certain way.

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That's why so many people are disappointed by their gurus, because not because.

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The gurus did anything wrong, you know, it's just, they're actually normal humans.

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You made them into some sort of God in your head that did no wrong.

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And then all of a sudden they're just being normal humans in the world, messing up and failing like we all do, but they're getting publicized and now all of a sudden we put them down and we say they're bad people, but they're not.

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They've always been that person.

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You've ignored the other side.

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Whenever we have that infatuation, it's a beautiful transition into like personal development.

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When behavior and understanding how to catch that when we're only seeing one side because when you go in and you see both sides of a person, you really can take some beautiful information from people, but then you also understand their gaps.

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And depending on the level of relationship you have, you know, like there's certain mentors that I have where I do see some of the gaps, but I get to share that with them.

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And also they have.

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a very clear view that they're not gurus, right?

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So, they're able to connect and talk with their students and get feedback.

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And if it's actually quality feedback back, they're like, yeah, that's amazing catch.

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Thank you so much.

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and incorporating that.

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And then all of a sudden the master and the teacher are one, Right.

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And the master teacher and the student, we're all coming together like as one.

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So it's not one has to be separate from the other because that's the real relationship.

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the genuine relationship is a student always is learning from teacher.

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Teacher's always going to learn from the student.

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And that when we humble ourselves to not have to be those people, or we don't expect someone to be that person.

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Builds a different dynamic in a relationship to which I love strategic partnerships.

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Yeah, I lost your partnerships.

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Yeah, well put.

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And you know, I think that's also the power of like a good mastermind, right?

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when you have other folks who've been on that journey and you're almost having those brainstorming sessions that creates real breakthroughs because you're always growing together.

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Whereas depending on a guru, It can, you know, there is limitations to their whatever made them be perceived as one.

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this is something that we remember even within ourselves, right, that each of us individually have unique life purposes.

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We're here for a specific reason, but that also means we focus on things in a very specific way.

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So we are, each one of us on this planet are seeing the world.

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Through our own lens and what's important to us and what's meaningful to us, right?

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That's always fun to have a conversation with someone else because just sitting down and having a conversation with someone else gives you a completely different perspective of the world because they see it in a different way, you know, and so that's the important thing to remember is that whatever we're learning from someone, we're going to learn through their lens, right?

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We're learning through their lens.

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All the information you're going to get from me is going to get filtered through my own lens, you know, and my lens, my main purpose, I love experiencing it like vision, mission, purpose.

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I want to experience it.

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I want to expand it.

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I want to help other people do it.

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So my lens is going to be put on All of the information I get, no matter what I'm reading, it's going to come in through that lens.

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And that's the same thing for everyone.

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So if someone has a value on family, and that's their life purpose, business, that's their life purpose, health, all the information that they're getting, all of a sudden it gets filtered and related to what's most important to them.

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And then we learn from those people with that filter.

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So we could both read the same book and really talk about it in two completely different ways.

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And so that's what's really important.

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my favorite clients are the ones who don't just study with me, they're studying with so many other people, and when they bring things to the table, it's quite inspiring, because they're bringing other education, other teachers, into my own consults, and we get to talk about it, and we get to put it on this lens, because they come to me, because they're like, I want this information with your lens today, and I'm like, alright, let's do it, That's cool, because it's a collaboration, like the world is a collaboration in a sense, as long as we're seeing things through our own lens, but also all these other people have their own unique lens, they're witnessing things through as well, then we're not going to expect one person to have all the information, nor ourselves.

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Yeah, nor ourselves.

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So.

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let's talk a little bit about, going back to your journey.

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All right, let's pick on you specifically, Carla.

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I'm most curious about the process.

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You can, talk about the outcomes or what have you, or what it was you're going through if you'd like, but really the process that you put yourself through to uncover, where you are now and get the full picture of who you are.

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Absolutely.

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And I'm going to preface this with this is a lifelong process.

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So I'm at a certain point today, but I have certainty there's so much more inside me that I'm, I'm able to open up right.

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That I know that I've still blocked and maybe just, I'm not ready for whatever reason, right.

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But I have certainty that this is going to be happening for the rest of my life.

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So the day that I die, which for me is inspiring.

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Like I'm really looking forward to that.

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That's a great gift for me.

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Um, so what's really cool about this is the first stage is to really understand who you are.

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Now our life is.

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going to demonstrate what's most valuable to us, right?

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How I spent my day today demonstrates what's most important to me.

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That's how I invest my time.

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What is energizing me?

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How even spend my money, right?

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Like that's going to be important.

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And if I break down what I did today, you're going to see that I have a really high value on my personal development, I love teaching.

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So I'm teaching today.

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all those things are things that I incorporated today.

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And there's things that I really wanted to do.

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These are things we want to check our language.

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Our language is something really important.

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Not only are we going to look at what our life demonstrates every day, but we also want to check our language because maybe you're working and maybe you're going to a job and you say, yeah, but Carly.

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I go to this job every day, but I don't want to.

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I feel like I have to, I need to, I should.

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Right?

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And so have to, need to, should isn't actually coming from our own intrinsic purpose.

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That's coming from a subordination to an outside authority.

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However, if it was really that bad, You would quit.

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So you're getting something else out of it.

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Sometimes we do things that are hard because the end goal or the payoff is worth it.

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What are those finances give you?

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Sometimes the finances are giving you the house that you're living in.

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I have people who just love creating like beautiful spaces.

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He just wanted The finances to build a house for the future family.

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It wasn't even for his current family.

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It wasn't even an existing yet.

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He just kept building a house for a future family that eventually came.

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Right.

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So that was important to him.

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And then there's people who just want it for their family.

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Nothing's wrong or right, you know, but it's to find out why you're truly doing the things that you're doing.

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A couple of key points here is what you're actually doing every day.

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What does your life demonstrate that you love to spend time on and that you don't procrastinate on things that I can count on you for that you wake up all day, every day and know if sands or butts, you're going to get it done.

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You're not going to procrastinate.

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I don't need to remind you.

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That is inspiration from within.

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And the funny thing is, is that we compare ourselves to the outside world so often we think that we're disconnected from our purpose because it should look this way and it needs to look that way.

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But we're so blind to the reality that there are things you're doing every day that some people in the world genuinely need external motivation and are procrastinating on that are easy for you.

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That's your life purpose.

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That's purposeful to you.

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That's meaningful to you.

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Those are your whys.

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Right?

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So really pay attention to your life because that's going to be important.

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Also, I mean, bank accounts is fun because we get to look and see how our finances are spent.

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Right?

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So if I look at my finances versus other individuals finances, you can look at mine and be like, Yeah, she likes education.

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This, this one really likes studying.

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Like, she's spending an exorbitant amount of money on education and studying, you know, whereas other people might be spending that exorbitant amount on their house.

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And what does that mean to you?

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What is meaningful to you about that house?

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Again, no right or wrong.

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You know, um, sounds like Cardi B.

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I think she spent, it was like two or three hundred thousand dollars a month on beauty.

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That's not right or wrong, but what she's demonstrating and telling me is that that is so meaningful and purposeful to her that the majority of her investment goes in there, right?

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And we see her, she's utilized that brand.

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It's marketing.

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It's she's a business now she's made beauty of business.

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So that's kind of fun.

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If whoever has that as a value system, you get to think about that.

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so we get to see too, is like how we spend that financial component and that'll demonstrate to us what's most important because if savings and investing was really, truly important to you, you would have put it away.

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You would put the money away and you would pay yourself in that aspect first, as opposed to paying these other individuals to get the things that you really want.

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cause we can judge ourselves about finance.

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It's a lot, but it's a great insight into who we are.

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And then again, just paying attention to the language that we use, like, Am I really saying I love to do this?

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Like when I wake up in the morning, do I say, I'm really looking forward to this.

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I want to do this.

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I love to do this.

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I choose to do this.

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Or am I waking up and I'm like, Oh, I have to do this today.

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I need to do this.

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When I say have to need to, I know that's not coming from me.

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Right.

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And again, we'll do it if the payoff is linked up with the bigger Y.

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It gets thrown to the side.

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And those are the things we label as procrastination, which is actually just our internal system saying this isn't valuable enough for us to do.

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So is there like a good exercise for doing this?

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do you journal all this stuff every day or something there's a couple of questions you can ask, but just ask yourself the questions and pay attention how do you spend your time every day.

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write down, The top few ways that you're spending your time and look, and how do you spend your money every day?

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What gives you the most energy?

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Like the things that give you energy.

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Think about this as well.

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It was like things that drain you are not meaningful.

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When something drains us, we're exhausted.

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We don't want to do it.

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Right.

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We feel that.

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But the things that energize you, it's like I could call you in the middle of the night and you'd wake up and you'd be like, Oh, you're going to do that.

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I'm awake.

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Carly.

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That's because that fuels you.

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That's inspiration.

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Right?

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So if you just even look at those three things and write down a few things, the top things in each of those areas of life, that's going to, energize you that you spend the most time on.

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And that also you invest the most money on and immediately you'll see a common theme.

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Immediately.

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Something's going to pop up where you're going to see a few common items in there.

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And you're going to be like, that makes sense.

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This is what I do, you know?

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And so it's really.

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We make it more difficult than it is, because this is why, by the way, sometimes we want it to be a certain answer, right, though I might look at it and this happens most frequently as people want to subordinate to the idea of thinking finances is important to them.

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But if you're not saving and investing and more money is not going into that than everywhere else.

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I know that you're not focused on it.

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I know, I know.

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100%.

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And so if you're not spending that amount of time building that money is not important to you.

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Being rich isn't important.

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And that's okay.

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There's nothing right or wrong.

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Not everyone on this planet is like destined to be rich.

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We wouldn't have like a balance in the economy if it was that way.

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It's not possible.

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We're all meant to have something different we contribute.

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But that's something most people subordinate to most often.

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And then if I say, well, does your life demonstrate you're actually building financial wealth and independence?

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Like, are you going to be financially wealthy and independent and win?

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And if someone says, well, I don't know, well, then it's like, well, what are you doing to get there?

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And it's like, well, I don't know.

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I just, it's something that I want.

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And I think about a lot, not showing evidence of coming true.

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If it doesn't show evidence of coming true, don't write that down.

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That's the only time it gets confusing is when we're subordinating.

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To some outer authority that we made better than us.

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And we think that that should be our answer when the truth is your answer is the most important, you know, and if you really do want to have financial wealth one day, I invite you to make sure you get that answer correctly because I love studying and I love learning and I love researching.

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But then when I realized, like, I could take this and I could package it and I could teach it, before it was a drain on finances and now it can increase finances, you know, now it's the thing that brings me money.

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And so that's what I say is like, find what you love, find what you love, investing time in, and there's a market and people out there who want to receive the things that you love And created into products services that you can provide for other people.

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And then all of a sudden it's a win win.

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So sometimes it's like, yeah, we don't want to subordinate.

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I want to know what your life truly demonstrates, what you wake up every day.

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You invest the most time in what energizes you the most, what you're genuinely spending money on what's most important to you.

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No lies.

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And as long as you keep that like truthful and you just look, you're going to be like, there's a clear pattern of what I'm doing.

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Just those three questions will show you like a clear pattern.

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It's going to be amazing.

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And it's cool.

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That's you.

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That's your why.

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So is that what you mean by, making your vocation, your vacation?

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Yeah.

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Cause you want to think about it this way.

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Like if I sit there and I say, I have to work, right.

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That means I'm not actually enjoying what I'm doing, but you can enjoy what you're doing no matter in, in, What in like any area and it's like what do you truly love?

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What is truly Inspiring to you and how can you create that into a job.

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My brother's a great example, He loves video games and he loves design.

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the funniest thing is now he plays video games to help them create commercials for it, which is also a design component because it has to look a very specific way.

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So he makes the players look a very specific way.

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And now he wants to work in getting into the production of that next, right?

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This makes sense for him.

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And the other thing he loves.

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is social.

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He loves his friends.

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And it just so happens that he got hired at a company with his friends.

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So if I asked my brother, is he dreading work?

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He's not going to dread work.

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He's going to love going to work.

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He gets to do all the things that he loves.

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Right.

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And so this is the thing is like, it could be in a job, but if the job isn't offered to you and you don't see a job where you can get that.

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Filled your opportunity to create one, you know, this is where it's like, well, where can I fulfill all these different parts?

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And is that a job that I can make for myself?

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Is that a consultant job?

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Is that a product that I can create for someone?

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Is that a service?

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And then it's like, okay Like I could see that this is possible, you know, so there's a lot of possibilities in life when you understand who you are, and then you could see where you're the best fit.

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I think what I got really lucky with growing up before I even understood these dynamics of our own human behavior, our intrinsic why, which stems from the study axiology.

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Axiology is the value and meaning we place on life, right?

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So that's the initial study in science and history.

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And stuff is axiology.

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So I fully understand this, but I did get lucky in the sense where I got to see People in my family Doing jobs they loved so I grew up around entrepreneurs doing things that they loved so to me Working you you just don't do stuff.

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You didn't like like to me.

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That was just like a thing.

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That was just I don't understand why you would have a job that you didn't enjoy.

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I just didn't understand it because that's what I grew up witnessing.

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Present day, I don't understand the massive value of that.

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And I do know that there have been a couple positions that I had in the past when I was an employee that I did not like.

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And I am telling you, I was out of those places so fast.

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Right.

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So fast.

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Were the ones that I liked.

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I was like, I can go back and be like, it was so inspiring.

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And I can even share it with you now, how inspiring it was and why, because it fulfilled that deeper why for me.

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Yeah, no, I get it.

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I mean, every job I've had, sometimes it starts, you know, with, with a bit of passion there, just to maybe overcome a challenge or everything, but I, I don't, I don't make a good employee.

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Ultimately, right?

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I understand.

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Yeah, I understand completely.

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So, you know, I wonder though, in the way you're framing it, you're almost taking your passion and you're creating it into, your source of income.

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Right.

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And, and I think sometimes when you do that, You, you think, there, there, there's a, an imposter syndrome that can develop with that.

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I think for example, I love long distance running.

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And I studied the heck out of it.

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I love it.

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I've thought about a million different business ideas with it.

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And ultimately I won't do it, for a few different reasons, but one of them is like, I would feel like I'm an imposter.

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I'm not like, Breaking world records in marathons or anything like that and not that you need to but that's how my brain works And I feel like oh i'm not I haven't really I haven't run since I was a kid Whatever stories we tell ourselves, and I think that's quite natural with other people who think like we do right?

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How do you overcome that?

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That piece to it.

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Yeah, that's a great question.

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That's a beautiful example.

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And this is because our, what will end up happening is we'll see someone on the outside, right?

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So for example, you're seeing these runners on the outside and you're thinking they have something that you don't.

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So they've won these world championship sort of awards, right?

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Now what you haven't acknowledged in yourself, because in this moment you're putting them on a pedestal for living in their why.

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In their unique purpose, their purpose in life was to win those medals in that form.

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But if you have that admiration, now I know that in your life, you have won accolades and awards and recognitions to the same degree as them, but in your form.

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Cause when I say that, can you see all the different awards, recognitions that you've gotten in your life in different forms?

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Can you start to like, see like, yeah, okay, perfect.

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So you have just as much accolade and award as these championship runners, but you have it in your unique form.

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The thing that's more important to you.

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And when you realize that you realize that there's no difference between you and that runner.

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You too just have two different purposes and so the same qualities are being expressed in a different form.

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This is really cool.

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So for every person on this planet, we get imposter syndrome when we don't see our form.

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And all of a sudden, we forget.

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It's like we forget in those moments, by the way, that we've done all this stuff in our life.

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But then we think this is the way and this is the form it has To be, but when you take a closer look and you say, where have I done something in the exact same form or very similar, you'll level the playing field because you'll realize that nothing is missing.

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You've been invested in the same or similar thing to the same degree.

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Just in your unique form.

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And then all of a sudden it's like, well, I don't need to do it that way.

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This is where this is really cool.

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It opens up your executive center.

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Cause the second you stop subordinating and thinking it has to be this way, you realize that you already have a different way of doing it, which is also inspiring your executive center, your forebrain opens up and you come up with ideas on, Oh, well, I can just implement it like this.

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It doesn't have to be in like the exact way I thought it had to be.

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It can be in whatever way that I actually am inspired.

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And the people that I connect with are inspiring.

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You know, so this one is a great question.

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So whenever we get imposter syndrome, we have lost sight that we have the very same thing that we think someone else has.

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The second we see it in our own form, that's unique.

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It levels the playing field and you don't look at that person as above you or below you.

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You have certainty there.

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You're equal.

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how much you think, labels, That we either are given or we give ourselves have to do with that meaning for example, let's say I don't identify myself as a running coach, right?

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however, I have coached and I know like, you know As much if not more, I mean, I know a lot of running coaching.

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I know more than them you know, and even the ones that are certified and all that stuff, but I think We think like oh we can't because we don't identify as a running coach You know what i'm saying?

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And other people don't come to me for business and running coaching I mean, that's not my business.

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Anyways, I don't want to be there.

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but do you know what I mean?

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oh, okay.

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Yeah.

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And this is that thing too, where again, this is, this is also a choice.

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This is a choice of how you want to incorporate things.

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I love doing what I love.

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I love being inspired by what I love.

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I absolutely love it.

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So I don't like to have to Separate everything.

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I don't want to have to show up on a podcast or in one of my business meetings and be a different person there than I am just in my day to day life.

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That, to me, feels exhausting.

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That's exhausting for me.

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And it may not be exhausting for everyone, but it's exhausting for me.

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Genuinely exhausting for me.

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And so I like to incorporate it all.

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So even when I think about like the, like, you know, I do business to business stuff, right?

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when I do business to business stuff, it's not just when we do like a two day kickoff, right?

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I don't just do a two day kickoff and sit down and do all this corporate stuff.

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there's no way you're going to get out of doing all the corporate components to make sure that your business is going to stay in and grow and run in the direction you want it to go.

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Like that is 100%.

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You're not getting out of that.

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But what you're also not going to get out of is the other dynamic of who I am.

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Like, what are we going to do that morning?

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Did we go on a hike that morning?

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Did we go on a lake that morning?

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Did we go surfing that morning?

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You know, it's like you're going to, we're in Europe or probably took you to a museum and we got some like insights and info because I want people to experience life and I can't, I can't take that part outside of myself.

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Right.

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So when I say.

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we can incorporate all the things that we love.

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I love to travel.

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So I don't want to have companies that I work with just in the United States.

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I want to be able to travel overseas.

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And I want to be very particular on my favorite places to go, you know?

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And so it's like, what do you love and how do you genuinely incorporate it?

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If you're not incorporating it in your business, I also just love creating income as well.

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So it's like, I do want to get paid for what I love.

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That was one of my goals was like, I asked myself the question all the time is how can I get paid to do what I love?

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How can I get paid to do what I love and come up with ideas?

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And I realized the more and more I asked that question, the more and more I see that there's people out there who want to do it.

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But if you don't want to, you also don't have to, but then there's that dynamic too.

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It's like, okay, cool.

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If I'm not going to get paid to do this component, right?

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Like this particular component that I love in my life, which is perhaps running, then it's like, how do I create a life and a business and a structure that ensures that that is still incorporated as often as necessary?

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That feeds my soul, you know?

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So it's like, we want to make sure we're doing all those different dynamics.

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We understand all those little pieces of ourselves.

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And even if you don't turn it into a business, You want to make sure you're still living it on a day to day basis, you know, and sometimes it even comes out.

00:28:00.549 --> 00:28:13.009
even if you're like coaching or consulting with someone, you might even bring out a story about the running, you know, where you compare someone's personal development and growth to running and what occurs in running.

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Cause I know I love sports.

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So I know sports and I know that you cannot.

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Do sports or be athletic without being into personal development to a certain degree.

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Like it is challenging and it is a mindset component.

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It is not just physical, but it's mindset.

00:28:29.000 --> 00:28:36.240
So even that aspect, even when I think of it as like, every time I go to my boxing class, it's a mindset class, you know, it's a mindset class.

00:28:36.250 --> 00:28:39.140
And I can bring that into a consultation as an example.

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And so it's everything.

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It's funny.

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We, Try to separate everything like it's different, but when you start to see how all these things come together, it doesn't always have to be separate.

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And then it's like, well, how do I incorporate all this stuff?

00:28:54.220 --> 00:29:04.740
You know, and even saying that, it's like, I could also take, you know, private, when people come up to my neighborhood, I've talked to the, My boxing guy about this is that we'll just go and we'll do a boxing class together.

00:29:04.750 --> 00:29:05.900
I was like, this will be so much fun.

00:29:06.319 --> 00:29:07.509
You know, we'll start with boxing.

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It'll get us in a mindset.

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It'll get us out of our box.

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It'll force people to do things that are uncomfortable.

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And that sets the tone and the energy to really look at your business differently.

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And that's what I want.

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Right.

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So I get to be me.

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And I get to get paid and I get to help people and give them a new life experience and help them in their business and their company.

00:29:28.650 --> 00:29:32.150
So, I give you this example cause it's, you know, this is my unique life, right?

00:29:32.509 --> 00:29:38.000
But a great example too, is like, I have a client, he loves coaching, but he doesn't want to have his own business.

00:29:38.480 --> 00:29:46.319
And he loves building teams, loves coaching, loves building teams, but he wants to make money like an entrepreneur without being an entrepreneur, right?

00:29:46.349 --> 00:29:46.920
Which is fine.

00:29:48.795 --> 00:29:49.545
You can do whatever they want.

00:29:49.934 --> 00:29:51.674
He found a company to work with.

00:29:51.805 --> 00:29:53.724
That's massively commissioned base.

00:29:54.045 --> 00:29:58.365
He gets a small base salary and then commission, and he's done extremely well.

00:29:58.714 --> 00:30:01.015
He is building teams that are now building teams.

00:30:01.045 --> 00:30:07.795
And he is scaling that company exponentially while he's getting paid really well, and he just gets to go out and do what he loves.

00:30:07.795 --> 00:30:09.045
He builds the sales teams.

00:30:09.045 --> 00:30:10.394
He builds the leadership teams.

00:30:10.744 --> 00:30:14.035
He's opening branches left and right, because he just loves what he does.

00:30:14.545 --> 00:30:16.934
And he just gets to do what he does all day is build teams.

00:30:17.015 --> 00:30:17.944
He loves building teams.

00:30:18.234 --> 00:30:21.174
And that's the form that supports him most.

00:30:21.555 --> 00:30:22.775
And so it really is a great crowd.

00:30:22.914 --> 00:30:23.775
he loves all this stuff.

00:30:23.775 --> 00:30:25.255
Like, you know, you talk about running and all this stuff.

00:30:25.255 --> 00:30:26.325
He loves doing that stuff too.

00:30:26.694 --> 00:30:29.255
And he takes on his own dimes, his teams out.

00:30:29.894 --> 00:30:35.174
On like little mini weekend trips and stuff to do bonding and education, right?

00:30:35.204 --> 00:30:38.305
Cause he doesn't want to give that up and it's on his dime, but it doesn't matter.

00:30:38.305 --> 00:30:40.865
His teams are running so well, it's paying itself.

00:30:40.904 --> 00:30:46.434
Like he's paying for it just by getting his teams to be soul fulfilled and thriving.

00:30:47.144 --> 00:30:48.355
And it's amazing to see.

00:30:48.384 --> 00:30:52.484
And so here's people just like going in, like, what do I love?

00:30:52.664 --> 00:30:53.674
What do I love to do?

00:30:54.015 --> 00:30:55.785
How can I create a business out of this?

00:30:55.815 --> 00:30:58.615
Or sometimes it's like, how can I incorporate this into business?

00:30:58.914 --> 00:30:59.954
Who's going to let me do it?

00:31:00.244 --> 00:31:01.365
You know, and you'd be surprised.

00:31:02.075 --> 00:31:03.275
You'd be really surprised.

00:31:03.285 --> 00:31:07.904
Like if you find something that's really valuable for a company, they're so into it.

00:31:08.214 --> 00:31:09.285
I have another client.

00:31:09.315 --> 00:31:13.734
He's an employee at a company and he loves personal development.

00:31:13.744 --> 00:31:14.545
He loves it so much.

00:31:14.545 --> 00:31:15.164
He's so much fun.

00:31:15.595 --> 00:31:30.194
And he actually started At a huge corporation in Canada, he decided to start a personal development sector where he brings in speakers and teachers and now they have personal development incorporated into the company.

00:31:30.204 --> 00:31:34.884
He changed the culture of an entire company just because the guy liked personal development.

00:31:35.345 --> 00:31:37.315
And so it doesn't, this is where it's cool.

00:31:37.315 --> 00:31:42.214
It's like, what do you, what do you love and how can you incorporate it where you're at?

00:31:42.565 --> 00:31:44.765
If you can't, then you create your own thing.

00:31:44.775 --> 00:31:46.595
Like there's so many opportunities for us.

00:31:47.509 --> 00:31:48.539
Yeah, that's great.

00:31:49.430 --> 00:31:54.339
So, you know, I've seen that you also like to talk about reframing challenges to opportunities.

00:31:54.960 --> 00:31:57.140
You know, can you talk a little bit about how we do that?

00:32:00.424 --> 00:32:01.555
Yeah, absolutely.

00:32:01.555 --> 00:32:08.365
I think this is a really great question that kind of goes off off everything else that we've been talking about, because that's definitely quite inspiring.

00:32:08.384 --> 00:32:11.184
It lights me up and energizes me to see people doing that.

00:32:11.204 --> 00:32:12.944
However, that's not easy.

00:32:13.015 --> 00:32:15.384
All the stuff I'm talking about, that's not easy to accomplish or achieve.

00:32:15.394 --> 00:32:17.275
This isn't like just a walk in the park, right?

00:32:17.795 --> 00:32:19.795
so it's really hard.

00:32:20.095 --> 00:32:26.615
And if something becomes too challenging in our perception and something becomes too stressful, we start to back down.

00:32:28.190 --> 00:32:32.529
And the sad thing is, is sometimes we're giving up on something that's really important just because of the stress.

00:32:32.930 --> 00:32:40.190
So we want to transform our perception to see that this stress is not in the way, but it's on the way.

00:32:40.529 --> 00:32:45.480
So no matter what you're going through, we want to start to ask quality questions about how it's actually serving us.

00:32:45.859 --> 00:32:50.150
So a really great example, one of the, the individual is talking about who's scaling within the company, right?

00:32:50.190 --> 00:32:51.960
Building upon building and doing the teams.

00:32:52.589 --> 00:32:56.680
They had a challenge with an individual who they had let go of.

00:32:57.319 --> 00:33:03.000
That had stolen some of their proprietary information and was launching a company to compete with them.

00:33:03.190 --> 00:33:03.599
Right.

00:33:03.890 --> 00:33:04.930
And so that was tough.

00:33:04.970 --> 00:33:07.200
And we were going through because it was very stressful.

00:33:07.200 --> 00:33:09.230
They had to deal with all this legal stuff, all this junk.

00:33:09.730 --> 00:33:18.599
When we started to look at how that was benefiting them, how that served them, because right now, whenever you have a stressor, this is like a mathematical equation.

00:33:18.609 --> 00:33:21.720
You have more drawbacks, more negatives, right?

00:33:21.954 --> 00:33:25.575
More negative connotation and association with it than positive.

00:33:25.575 --> 00:33:27.944
So we don't want something to be more positive than negative.

00:33:27.954 --> 00:33:29.515
You just want to make it equal.

00:33:29.775 --> 00:33:30.674
Zero, right?

00:33:31.005 --> 00:33:33.345
Negative one plus one equals equal.

00:33:33.545 --> 00:33:34.214
Equilibrium.

00:33:34.224 --> 00:33:35.154
We don't need to go above.

00:33:35.214 --> 00:33:36.095
We don't need to go below.

00:33:36.345 --> 00:33:37.384
We just want equilibrium.

00:33:37.714 --> 00:33:39.055
And so you just stack.

00:33:39.410 --> 00:33:47.009
Benefits until all of a sudden you become grateful for what you're going through when we got to do this in the sessions with this individual.

00:33:47.009 --> 00:33:58.234
What we got to see is this individual, although they were quite challenging, gave them the opportunity to start building a framework that they couldn't get replicated.

00:33:58.454 --> 00:34:03.585
They wound up hiring a full time lawyer on staff, which was perfect timing.

00:34:03.595 --> 00:34:06.065
That company is scaling and now it's scaling rapidly.

00:34:06.424 --> 00:34:12.855
So having a full time lawyer is actually necessary, but they weren't going to hire one until this guy came in, right?

00:34:13.025 --> 00:34:21.284
This guy came in to steal, and now they have someone on staff full time helping them to make sure That they're going to thrive, which a company that size, it's actually really smart that they have it.

00:34:21.585 --> 00:34:29.275
So all of these things, after he started to see all the little bits and pieces of business that are falling in place as a result of this challenge, I was like, do you want to get rid of it?

00:34:29.275 --> 00:34:30.914
And he's like, no, I'm actually really grateful.

00:34:31.114 --> 00:34:31.994
He's like, this is good.

00:34:32.045 --> 00:34:32.704
This is a good thing.

00:34:32.905 --> 00:34:34.114
He's like, I got this now.

00:34:34.315 --> 00:34:35.074
He goes, it's stressful.

00:34:35.735 --> 00:34:39.905
He's like, it's stressful in a hard way, but he's like, but not in like, I can't do it.

00:34:39.905 --> 00:34:40.565
And it'll be fun.

00:34:40.574 --> 00:34:41.594
He's like, it'll be fun now.

00:34:41.594 --> 00:34:42.965
And I'm like, okay, perfect.

00:34:43.264 --> 00:34:46.905
So that's what we want to do is we want to shift our perception from having these.

00:34:47.184 --> 00:34:53.125
Overly negative associations to just balance equal and then it becomes you stress.

00:34:53.614 --> 00:34:59.804
So distress is the perception that something in the way not on the way you stress is something that's on the way.

00:34:59.824 --> 00:35:04.164
These are the things when you think about challenges right now that you go through that you're excited.

00:35:04.414 --> 00:35:10.954
To engage in because you're like, this is going to be really hard, but I want to do it anyways, because this is going to get me X, Y, Z, right?

00:35:11.255 --> 00:35:12.815
This is get what I get to experience.

00:35:12.864 --> 00:35:13.855
That's you stress.

00:35:14.175 --> 00:35:19.585
So what we're doing with these questions is we're taking a distressful situation and making it the new stress.

00:35:19.815 --> 00:35:21.034
Which makes you inspired to do it.

00:35:21.045 --> 00:35:22.614
And then you don't back off anymore.

00:35:22.905 --> 00:35:25.994
And the other thing that you do once you do that is you get objective again.

00:35:26.045 --> 00:35:30.735
Because when we're trying to avoid something, all your brain is thinking of, it's not thinking of solutions.

00:35:31.164 --> 00:35:32.565
This is funny, our brain's hysterical.

00:35:32.894 --> 00:35:38.085
Conscious unconscious is going to be like, I'm just going to come up with all the solutions and the ways to just avoid this.

00:35:38.264 --> 00:35:41.545
So we can't get to the other side because we're just trying to avoid it, right?

00:35:41.894 --> 00:35:43.985
But once you Change your perspective.

00:35:43.985 --> 00:35:46.775
Your objectivity opens up because you're like, I don't need to avoid this.

00:35:47.414 --> 00:35:51.025
So now that I don't need to avoid this, here's some really great solutions that you can have.

00:35:52.275 --> 00:35:53.934
And this is how we can get to the other side.

00:35:54.195 --> 00:35:59.125
And that's why when we shift our perception, the brain opens up to solutions because we're not trying to avoid it anymore.

00:35:59.425 --> 00:36:02.224
Otherwise, no, your brain is very amazing tool.

00:36:03.710 --> 00:36:07.610
It's going to do what it's meant to do, and it's going to come up with the solutions based on what you think you want.

00:36:07.849 --> 00:36:12.860
If you're trying to avoid it, subconsciously or consciously, it's only going to come up with solutions to that.

00:36:12.869 --> 00:36:15.269
And that's why you get so stuck and you can't overcome it.

00:36:15.539 --> 00:36:19.880
But when we change the perspective around it, all of a sudden your brain's like, Oh, I don't need to avoid this.

00:36:19.900 --> 00:36:21.079
I can actually embrace it.

00:36:21.099 --> 00:36:22.829
And now I want to go through this challenge.

00:36:23.079 --> 00:36:24.019
I want to overcome it.

00:36:24.019 --> 00:36:26.730
And all the objectivity comes in and solutions.

00:36:27.420 --> 00:36:29.260
Our brain's an amazing tool.

00:36:29.820 --> 00:36:31.519
It really is.

00:36:31.599 --> 00:36:31.619
All right.

00:36:32.090 --> 00:36:32.849
Yeah, that's great.

00:36:33.510 --> 00:36:37.489
So what about, actually, wow, time's really been flying by.

00:36:37.500 --> 00:36:41.119
I, I actually, we, I think we need to get into our world famous Wayfinder 4.

00:36:41.659 --> 00:36:46.730
And since you're an international speaker, then this is really like world famous here.

00:36:46.730 --> 00:36:48.409
Yeah.

00:36:49.389 --> 00:36:51.210
The, so Carly, can you give us a hack?

00:36:53.320 --> 00:36:53.909
a hack?

00:36:54.210 --> 00:36:54.559
Mm hmm.

00:36:54.570 --> 00:36:54.989
Yeah.

00:36:55.199 --> 00:36:56.260
Like a life, yeah.

00:36:56.380 --> 00:36:56.639
Okay.

00:36:57.000 --> 00:36:57.400
So like a life hack.

00:36:58.190 --> 00:36:59.530
So we talked a lot.

00:36:59.809 --> 00:37:03.469
Go back and listen to how to figure out what is meaningful and purposeful to you.

00:37:03.519 --> 00:37:04.960
And a genuine life hack.

00:37:04.960 --> 00:37:08.360
This changed my life, changed my life.

00:37:08.409 --> 00:37:10.170
It changes so many people's lives.

00:37:10.199 --> 00:37:31.204
It's once I started to see the pattern of what my bigger why and purpose was, I then started organizing my day so that every day, no ifs, ands, or buts, the things that were important to me were included, whether I was directly engaging in them or working towards goals that actually aligned with them in the future.

00:37:31.750 --> 00:37:37.300
Once I did that guys, like no joke, like, I used to have chronic anxiety, like it cleared up like crazy.

00:37:37.610 --> 00:37:38.420
It was amazing.

00:37:38.420 --> 00:37:45.000
So this is one of the biggest things because every day, imagine if you woke up and you looked at a list of your life and you're like, I want to do that.

00:37:45.030 --> 00:37:45.670
I want to do that.

00:37:45.690 --> 00:37:46.440
I want to do that.

00:37:46.750 --> 00:37:53.480
and if you just imagine what it would be like to every day, look at your calendar and be like, I can't wait to experience this day.

00:37:53.809 --> 00:37:55.110
That will change your life.

00:37:55.280 --> 00:37:57.164
So go back and listen, figure it out.

00:37:58.284 --> 00:38:06.204
Figure out what your whys are, your purpose, and then really organize your day and your life to integrate it every single day.

00:38:06.525 --> 00:38:09.835
And it'll just drastically change, a hundred percent.

00:38:11.074 --> 00:38:11.505
Excellent.

00:38:12.204 --> 00:38:13.295
What about a favorite?

00:38:14.335 --> 00:38:17.655
This could be, you know, a book, hobby, show.

00:38:19.315 --> 00:38:19.775
Favorite.

00:38:20.724 --> 00:38:20.974
Yeah.

00:38:21.135 --> 00:38:21.684
Oh my gosh.

00:38:22.074 --> 00:38:24.344
So you say favorite and I'm like, there's so many amazing things.

00:38:24.635 --> 00:38:25.775
I would definitely say.

00:38:27.505 --> 00:38:31.744
studying and educating yourself and things that are inspiring to you, right?

00:38:31.775 --> 00:38:39.394
Things that you truly love, because what's going to help you do is it's going to help you have a more grounded and balanced perspective, you know?

00:38:39.434 --> 00:38:42.764
And it's like, cause sometimes we won't even do things cause we're like, I shouldn't do this.

00:38:42.795 --> 00:38:44.425
I shouldn't be reading this.

00:38:44.425 --> 00:38:45.565
I should read this instead.

00:38:45.614 --> 00:38:49.094
Really listen to it's like, no, I would love to read this.

00:38:49.125 --> 00:38:51.824
And then I want you to actually find out the why behind it.

00:38:51.835 --> 00:38:52.985
Like why is it so important?

00:38:53.164 --> 00:38:54.585
So what is one to you?

00:38:56.164 --> 00:38:59.684
I love reading about business and all this stuff, but I love reading about health.

00:39:00.255 --> 00:39:00.514
Right?

00:39:00.514 --> 00:39:05.525
So, in between everything, like, I love reading about health.

00:39:05.744 --> 00:39:08.144
Do you have a favorite health book?

00:39:08.925 --> 00:39:09.275
I don't know.

00:39:09.275 --> 00:39:10.985
I don't know if I have a favorite health book right now.

00:39:10.985 --> 00:39:11.905
Right now I'm into enzymes.

00:39:12.809 --> 00:39:18.099
I'm learning about my enzymes because they're like super just digestive things in your digestion system.

00:39:18.099 --> 00:39:21.440
It's in charge of so many things that I feel I could go off on a tangent.

00:39:21.789 --> 00:39:25.699
but it's like, again, it's not even involved in my business, but I love it so much.

00:39:26.050 --> 00:39:28.710
And so it's just like, find the thing that you love.

00:39:29.190 --> 00:39:31.800
And even though I shouldn't be studying that, I probably shouldn't.

00:39:32.880 --> 00:39:34.170
Should be reading the business book.

00:39:34.190 --> 00:39:39.559
I'm like, I don't want to because I love learning about my body I love learning about my health.

00:39:39.889 --> 00:39:40.800
I want to understand it.

00:39:40.849 --> 00:39:53.789
I want to experience it I want to live a really long time And so currently my perception is is that enzymes and understanding them to a greater degree is really gonna help me with that And so when I say like think about what you love today, it's enzymes, right?

00:39:53.789 --> 00:40:02.844
But in the past it's been sometimes people sometimes I read about people People and I'm like, I don't know why, but I really want to read about this specific person.

00:40:02.985 --> 00:40:03.344
Right.

00:40:03.664 --> 00:40:09.155
And sometimes guys, it's like we can judge ourselves so much, even with favorites, right?

00:40:09.264 --> 00:40:10.945
Sometimes I don't want to read a book.

00:40:10.974 --> 00:40:14.045
Sometimes I want to watch something on TV.

00:40:14.394 --> 00:40:17.764
And then I want you guys to like, understand why, you know?

00:40:17.764 --> 00:40:23.284
So it's like, when we think about favorites, favorites are so unique to each person and it'll all, I love this.

00:40:23.295 --> 00:40:30.230
Cause it'll depend on What you're going through in life and what you're really wanting to understand and learn about yourself and your experiences.

00:40:30.539 --> 00:40:37.659
So you may gravitate towards books or you may gravitate towards movies and TV shows, but again, it's like asking yourself that why, right?

00:40:37.659 --> 00:40:45.659
So I love learning and whenever something teaches me something about myself or something about like the world and the universe, I'm into it.

00:40:45.780 --> 00:40:47.000
I'm so into it.

00:40:49.019 --> 00:40:51.280
What about a piece of advice for your younger self?

00:40:53.465 --> 00:40:54.755
Don't you tell young Carly?

00:40:55.505 --> 00:40:58.474
Yeah, I would tell young Carly everything's fine.

00:40:59.275 --> 00:41:00.054
Don't worry.

00:41:00.844 --> 00:41:02.074
Like everything's cool.

00:41:02.074 --> 00:41:07.465
I know it all looks really scattered, but it's actually perfect the way it is.

00:41:07.465 --> 00:41:10.835
And even if you don't know it now, trust me, you'll know it later.

00:41:10.985 --> 00:41:11.644
You got this?

00:41:12.275 --> 00:41:12.875
Keep going.

00:41:13.795 --> 00:41:14.005
Yeah.

00:41:15.914 --> 00:41:17.144
Okay, so last one.

00:41:17.144 --> 00:41:20.721
You can choose between a big opportunity or a limiting belief, Uhhuh.

00:41:22.724 --> 00:41:23.324
Oh.

00:41:24.235 --> 00:41:32.534
A big opportunity or so, yeah, getting, well, they go, they totally go hand in hand.

00:41:32.605 --> 00:41:33.864
I'm like, which one do I want to do first?

00:41:34.664 --> 00:41:36.465
Yeah, you're the first one to point that out, actually.

00:41:36.755 --> 00:41:38.385
Yeah, I was like, they're totally hand in hand.

00:41:38.405 --> 00:41:44.184
But what I do is I generally, how do I, it's so funny.

00:41:44.204 --> 00:41:46.434
I guess it just depends on what the opportunity is or the belief.

00:41:46.744 --> 00:41:57.900
but oftentimes I'll notice, An opportunity and I'll shift the belief first and I'll see an opportunity, but I won't even go after it and I'll work on the belief first and then embrace the opportunity a little bit later.

00:41:57.900 --> 00:42:02.440
So I'm going to say limiting belief because if I look at my pattern in life, I like to work on the limiting beliefs.

00:42:02.769 --> 00:42:03.530
I see the opportunity.

00:42:03.530 --> 00:42:04.869
I'm like, let's work on those beliefs.

00:42:05.099 --> 00:42:05.840
So what is one?

00:42:06.400 --> 00:42:07.420
limiting belief?

00:42:07.519 --> 00:42:08.090
You might have.

00:42:08.119 --> 00:42:08.280
Yeah.

00:42:08.280 --> 00:42:09.579
So do you have a comment?

00:42:09.590 --> 00:42:11.099
So it really depends on.

00:42:11.929 --> 00:42:15.889
Yeah, I've been working on this, right now, actually.

00:42:16.010 --> 00:42:26.525
And what's really interesting is Like just to try to summarize this because it's been, it's been such a big one for so long is how I engage with the world.

00:42:26.574 --> 00:42:26.934
Right.

00:42:26.945 --> 00:42:30.855
So I definitely love business, but as you can see, I'm a very animated person.

00:42:31.125 --> 00:42:32.315
I'm very vocal.

00:42:32.344 --> 00:42:33.364
I can be very loud.

00:42:33.625 --> 00:42:37.485
I can also be sometimes quite abrasive because I'm like, we're going to get the job done.

00:42:37.585 --> 00:42:40.025
I'm like, we're going to have fun, but we're also going to get the job done.

00:42:40.025 --> 00:42:49.644
tough but fun has been my people describe me as so I have perceived that that playful part wouldn't fit into business.

00:42:50.255 --> 00:42:55.085
And it's been really cool because as I've been working through that misperception.

00:42:55.739 --> 00:42:57.099
Of the business world.

00:42:57.119 --> 00:42:59.300
What I've gotten to realize is the types.

00:42:59.369 --> 00:43:01.360
It's really connected me with my niche, right?

00:43:01.369 --> 00:43:10.599
It's really connected with my niche and oftentimes my niche is quite misunderstood because they could be sometimes reactive at their office space.

00:43:10.644 --> 00:43:20.554
They can be what someone would appear to be volatile, but what they're not understanding in this unique individuals is that we're not talking about volatile people with issues.

00:43:20.554 --> 00:43:28.195
We're talking about people who have poorly run companies on the back end and wake up every day and are genuinely so dedicated to their mission.

00:43:28.594 --> 00:43:35.425
And when they can't go to their company and actually fulfill that mission, they are literally freaking out.

00:43:35.835 --> 00:43:40.355
They're freaking out because their life purpose is being challenged on a day to day basis.

00:43:40.364 --> 00:43:40.684
So.

00:43:41.364 --> 00:43:41.914
It's cool.

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Like actually understanding myself helped me to understand that those are the people that I love to work with.

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So I can get in there, get their business on track and ensure that they're doing what they love.

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And that actually reduces the volatility while doing the personal development on the back end.

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And it becomes a win win for everyone.

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So me, and this is where big opportunities, this is where I think it's like me just working on that perception that I can't be the playful, silly.

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Southern California, yogi, beach girl, fashionista lady, like, in a business world doesn't fit, right?

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now I know it does.

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Now I know not only does it fit, but there's certain demographic and niche that it actually is really quite valuable for.

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Really?

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Yeah.

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So it's fun.

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Yeah.

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I would argue, I would actually argue that playfulness is required for success in business, right?

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Like I, I remember in business school, I went to business school and the beginning of every class like almost all start with a game and they end with a game too and there's games throughout and that actually is what made it fun.

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That's so cool.

00:44:47.432 --> 00:44:48.746
A great course of study.

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Yeah.

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I mean, it was awesome.

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This is a limiting belief I had.

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What's that?

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Yeah.

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In my brain.

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I'm like that you are not the same.

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Same.

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And you're like, Carly, they're hand in hand.

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And I was like, they weren't in my brain.

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Yeah.

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I mean, it's funny because yeah, you think like, Hey, I'm paying all this money for an MBA and they got, all we do is play games here.

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And at the end you're like, you realize, Oh snap, you actually learned something.

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Whereas like I had to study finance forever and I never learned any of it till I actually play games with it.

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Right.

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So that's really cool.

00:45:15.634 --> 00:45:21.414
So, Carly, if people want to work with you, want to know a little more about you, how can they find you?

00:45:22.434 --> 00:45:22.853
Yeah.

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So they can come to West Coast Growth Advisor.

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And then I have all of my information on there, you know, all social media, you can contact me directly and yeah, anything else extra that you want.

00:45:35.449 --> 00:45:41.278
There's a bunch of cool stuff on there for business, personal development, going to be adding something soon for personal development.

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It's like a, you know, kind of one of the freebies can be really fun, which will help you with your purpose that's coming within the next.

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It's a couple months.

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I'm looking forward to that.

00:45:50.217 --> 00:45:50.494
Excellent.

00:45:50.494 --> 00:45:50.773
Yeah.

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Well, Carly.

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This has been a lot of fun and You know for anybody else who's feeling a little bit stuck out there and needs some clarity, please give Carly a call.

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Thanks Imagine if you woke up and you looked at a list of your life and you're like, I want to do that.

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I want to do that.

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I want to do that.

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Every day.

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Look at your calendar and be like, I can't wait to experience this day.

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That will change your life.